So I'm talking verbal, emotional, narcissistic abuse, with a bit of physical thrown in. Who did you tell? I asked my husband to leave 3 months ago. I'd told only some very close family the bare minimum at this point.
Since he has left the box has opened, and i have been much more open with some family members, however I don't think i could ever look my parents in the eye and speak the words he spoke to me.
I have also not told a soul about the physical abuse. He never hit me, but he did kick, shove and pin me to a door by my chest/neck once.
I also have no idea what to tell friends when they ask. We have mutual friends that have guessed some i think, due to previous incidents in front of them, but other than that I've said nothing.
Obviously he has said zilch to his parents and for the sake of my daughter neither have I.
And now I feel sick to my back teeth of protecting him, whilst he is doing the sad Dad thing. Using this narrative of a poor bloke who has been thrown out of his home, is having to valiantly live with his parents whilst caring for his daughter. His selfish, vindictive, bitch of a wife has stolen his beloved dog and is now taking everything he has (both distinctly untrue, but it wouldn't look good if you actually told everyone your wife has repeatedly offered to share the dog with you, as it is in the best interests of everyone.)
It makes me feel physically sick after the years of shit I put up with. How much do I say to who, because I'm fed up of lying? Do people actually care when they ask, or are they hoping you won't say anything?