Long distance online relationships. Do they ever work out?

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Does anyone know of someone who met someone online a long way away and it had a happy ending. I know the odds are against it but I just wondered. At the moment I am very happy with my long distance thing as it is 🙂

Not if you have three concurrently.

It almost worked out for me. Met on social media through mutual friends, instantly hit it off. We were really happy living at opposite ends of the UK, woth visits around twice a month. however as I fell further in love I started to miss him terribly. When friends would invite us to dinners I would have to go alone. Upset each time we put the phone down at night. He was going to move up to be with me but an ex randomly dropped it on him that her child was his (have fact checked this as thought he was talking rubbish tbh) so he stayed and we broke it off. If that hadn't happened we would have moved in together but keeping it long distance wouldn't have worked for us much longer. Good luck

i've wasted the last 12 years on 3 of them, no, they don't.

Have you met in person?

I just wrote a long post wittering on about my relationship then realised that’s not what you asked haha.

There’s a podcast by a couple that met online, had a very long courtship then went on to marry. She’s American he’s English.

It’s quite good and they talk about the highs and lows of their choices. I’ll see if I can find it.

If you haven't actually met in person, then you could be wasting your time with a fantasy.
If you do meet up from time to time, then there's no reason why it won't work out, although somewhere along the line, one of you is going to have to relocate if you want a conventional relationship.

I had a happy ending on a long-distance relationship with a person I had met in the flesh first and was able to visit though infrequently.

Db had a happy ending with someone he met online (but then visited quite soon).

I think we both knew it was a big gamble and this could equally go wrong. In my case, there was no sense of wasting my life as I wasn't desperate for a relationship as such and had a very fulfilling and exciting life apart from romance.

No we havent met. He is American. We chat all day long and video call when we can. At the moment my life is complicated so this suits me very well. I feel special and loved (that probably sounds rediculous). We talk about me visiting when our lives and covid allows and then him visiting me. We even talk about one day one of us making the move to be together more perminently. It's a lovely thought. Maybe it can happen, who knows.

what is complicated with your life at the minute?

nope total waste of time. you end up making believe In your head filling in the gaps. then in person they can't possibly turn out to be the person you have made them into.

You have to meet and spend time together for it to have any chance of working. My now DW and I met in Scotland while I was based in Japan and managed 2 years long distance between Scotland and Japan before 6 months of living together full time and then planning a wedding and getting married 5 months later.

It only worked because our jobs/schedules allowed us at least 2 weeks a quarter together in the same country through that two year long distance period. Without that, I think it would have been almost impossible.