Is it possible to prepare for husband leaving?

[Mama8765]

I have a nearly three year old and a baby due in November and my husband walked out two nights ago and said he wanted to split up. I’ve had 6 weeks of him saying he wants to leave followed by him coming back and saying he doesn’t want to go. He was prescribed anti-depressants 5 weeks ago.

This time he understands that how he is treating me is unfair and has said he needs space to come to a final decision so that if he comes back in a week or so it is definite.

Please does anyone have any advice on what I can do practically or emotionally to prepare for him leaving?

Get your ducks in a row. Financial paperwork copied etc etc. Find out what benefits you'll be entitled to and be prepared to apply for them immediately. Get ready to immediately apply for cms (have copies of his payslips ready). Have paperwork for house sorted, is it rented, mortgaged etc. See if you can get a solicitor appointment and work out where you stand.

Emotionally: get fucking pissed off and take back the power - so far he's doing all the decision making and flipflopping while you sit around waiting for his final decision. He's realised he's being a wanker, but still wants another week of being a wanker before he reaches HIS decision. Who made him God? I'd be taking that final decision and shoving it up his arse with his suitcase! Tell family and friends, get support. Get angry! For you, for your dc who must be totally confused.

If he does 'magnanimously' decide he wants to come back then make him bloody work for it! No sauntering back home with no consequences. No gratitude from you that he has decided eventually to come home. He needs to earn your trust again.

What’s really going on with him? Is there another woman? Where is he going when he goes?

In your situation I wouldn’t be letting him walk back. I’d be changing the locks on the doors and telling him to stay gone