I’m so angry!

[Pink246]

Looking for some opinions ladies, I recently discovered DH has been spending money on cam sites, we discussed this particular site as he mentioned a guy at work used it and told me about it. I told him I thought it was disgusting paying them to do stuff and that I thought it was cheating, that was on a Sunday morning and looking at the transactions he went on that site 4 hours later and then again a couple of hours after that. He’s been sneaking out of bed to go downstairs and use this site and I don’t know what to think. I am so angry as I told him I’d be done over something like that!

So then be done.

The guy at work is himself. He was gauging your reaction. I feel it is cheating and Disrespectful in various ways. You must feel like shit. He is untrustworthy.

Of course the guy at work is him, it’s cheating for me too.

Was telling him you’d be done just an empty threat?

So he did it knowing the consequences?
Ltb.

If that's where your line is as a deal breaker and he's done it anyway you have 2 choices.

Let it go and it's a green light as your threats mean nothing.

Or tell him it's done and seperate.

I'm sorry man.

How do you know, what do the transactions say?

The guy at work is himself. He was gauging your reaction.

Yeah, I wondered about this too.

It crosses the line for me.

You also told him it crossed the line for you, and he's done it/repeated it anyway.

Oh, so he's disrespectful and stupid!

The payments were made through PayPal so the date and time is visible. I only found out because he had sent a complaint email because he tipped a woman and she ignored it! I feel sick. I just had our baby 4 months ago but think I’d be better on my own as I’ll never trust him again x

Pink426 I really feel for you. This will mean you or him moving out? Are you worried about your families reaction and what reason you will give? Worried about money and coping alone?

If he’s crossed a line for you then there’s no coming back
What’s your financial and housing situation?

I’ll be staying in my home, I came on here to vent as I am so embarrassed. My family think he’s perfect so I’m sure I’ll be the bad guy. As far as coping I think I’ll be better on my own. I feel sick when I look at him. I just view him as a grubby sleazeball which is a shame because I loved him

My family think he’s perfect so I’m sure I’ll be the bad guy*

Tell your family what he did. You’re not responsible for his actions.

Don't let yourself be seen as the bad guy , tell your family what he's done. It was a deal breaker for you and he's done it anyway.

Yuk. And your baby is only 4 months old as well. This won't get better. He's a shit and I'd turf him out.

I definitely will. He was on that site when I took our baby for his jags

Ugh and on top of that he complained about a cam girl not giving him enough special attention when he tipped. He sounds vile, in the long run you'll be so much better off not being with such a misogynist prick.

Tell your family what he did. Even if you just say cheated and leave it there if you can’t bring yourself to say the words he was paying cam girls to perform sexual service’s for him

I can’t believe he complained too about a girl ignoring his tip, Jesus, that’s almost worse,

Is this onlyfans?

God i dont blame you, at least porn is just faceless in a way. This is like real life people and it feels way more like cheating.

My bf signed up too but didnt subscribe but i felt a definite sense of betrayl

No it’s called bongacams I had never heard of it before he mentioned “the guy at work” he was paying them to do stuff it’s disgusting

Don’t protect him. Turf him out and tell your family the reason why! This would be a deal breaker for me. I don’t mind a bit of porn but paying for cam sites is a step too far

Two posters with very similar Pink names mention site names. Hmmmmmmmmm. Reporting.

Having interactive sexual experiences with cam girls (sex workers) is cheating in my book. His use of family money to betray you and objectify women is despicable.

OP, you’ve set your boundary and need to follow through. This man will do nothing but drain and diminish your and your son’s lives. You deserve better!

Disgusting. I really think there’s nothing less attractive than a man who literally cannot help himself and has to pay money to look and perve at other women. It’s so sleazy and imo I just see men like that as Neanderthals.
You’d 100% be better off without him. His priorities sounds wildly out of balance and he needs to grow up.
You need to be done here OP.

I didn’t realise I couldn’t write the site name, sorry.