Nervous about sex

[Willowmartha1]

I'm sleeping over with a guy I have been seeing on Saturday and I'm nervous as hell. It's been seven years since I last did the deed! I'm worried he'll think I'm overweight, dreading it to be honest. Any tips to get over my nerves?!

Honesty, humour, and um, a little bit of lubrication? Either alcohol or KY? Good luck! Have fun!

You could message him beforehand noting you have the decorators in this weekend. Would be a huge weight off your shoulders then and manages his expectations

@LionelMessy is that a euphemism for period? If so, how does that help? It’s merely delaying the inevitable.

Just tell him it's been a while and you're a bit nervous and then try to relax.
I think if you're at the stage of sleeping with someone you should be able to communicate things like that. If you can't, then cancel at stay at home because you're not ready to have sex with him.

if u r overweight or not - if he thinks ur overweight or not it obviously doesn't bother him or he wouldn't be dating u in the first place. go with the flow and tell him ur nervous- maybe he is too! xx

Don't do anything you're not comfortable with. I never stay the night the first time I have sex with someone, I like to go home. It feels less daunting then.

Honestly it doesn't matter if you're overweight or not. If it bothered him then he wouldn't be seeing you. In my experience once you get naked men really don't care if you're a bit chubby or your legs aren't perfectly shaved - it's a pressure we put on ourself - they're just happy you're naked.

Be semi honest with him and tell him it's been a while and you need to go a bit slow, use some lube if necessary, don't do anything you're not comfy with and don't expect fireworks - the first time together is always a little weird and awkward as you're not used to each others likes and rythem.

And enjoy!!!

Sex should feel free and fun. If you worry how you'll look, rather than relax and be you, you will clam up and it will be obvious you are not enjoying it. He may think you don't fancy him, remember he will probably have insecurities too, or he may worry he is pressuring you.

Try flirting and laughing, kissing and cuddling. If you want more than say so, but if that's enough then say you love cuddling and would like to stop there. It's not a race!

OP, are you seeing him before Saturday? If so, suggest you have sex with him sooner rather than later. Or go for the sex before bedtime so you can be relaxed for the rest of the day, depending on what time you meet up.

Otherwise, delaying things won’t help. You don’t suddenly become larger when your clothes are off, so relax.

It’s common to be nervous the first time, especially after waiting so long. I can’t imagine waiting 7 weeks, let alone 7 years.

Have a lovely time and one more word, condom!

Buy yourself some sexy underwear and nightie. It will make you feel good

Pleased to report it was all good I needn't have worried !!

Yay @Willowmartha1 well done. Enjoy

Good update 👍🏻