Dull alert!
So, my DP and I have been together for 3.5yrs, moved in together about a year ago and we're encountering some issues around housekeeping and it'd be really helpful to get some external views.
I am quite clean and tidy, I find that I can relax better once I know all my jobs are done. I work on a to-do list and while I'm not obsessive about it, i have a cleaning "routine" so to speak e.g. beds get changed once a week, mop once a week etc.
My DP has different standards. He would quite happily change mop once every three months for example.
Upon moving in together, I knew this would create more mess with there now being two people in the house but I also thought that this wouldn't impact me in terms of time spent cleaning as my DP would also be cleaning.
For the first few months he did nothing unless asked. And when asked, he never complains, always does what I ask. But I dont want to be the house manager, I want him to see the bin overflowing and therefore empty it rather than needing me to tell him.
We've sat down and discussed this and tried a few things including a rota. This week, he's now told me that he thinks I care about the house being clean more than he does and therefore I should take on more cleaning. While this is true (mess really doesn't bother him), I see this as me then cleaning up after myself AND after him which doesn't seem particularly fair. I'm willing to compromise and have already brought some standards down e.g. hoovering every other day rather than every day etc.
We both work full time, no kids yet and we both have outside hobbies and interests that take up a lot of time.
Thoughts? Am I being unreasonable to ask him to do 50% even when I get more out of the house being clean than he does? What do you do if you have different expectations of household standards?