To be utterly pissed off with partner

[Muppet7410]

It's my birthday today. Myself and my partner of 18 years have had our first childfree day since early March and been out for a lovely lunch. When we came home he gave me my birthday presents. They were complete shit - didn't even look at them because I was so annoyed. He built it up as if he had bought me some nice gifts but basically it was some cheap tat to wear in the bedroom and some sort of sex game. This is not the first time he's bought be this sort of gift. I'd buy it as a joke but not as an actual gift. Don't get me wrong i'm not expecting lavish expensive presents but for the one day a year when it's all about me what's wrong with buying me a bottle of perfume or some other generic birthday gift?! I'm fuming!!! And needed a rant!!!

My ex got me lavender scented bin bags & a set of microfibre cloths one year , oh and a plasterers trowel & mortarboard for Xmas .

I got a pair of slippers, which I was fine with as I has said I needed some new ones...until I found the receipt for an engraved bottle of perfume he had bought for his OW. That stung. He is obviously now my ex husband and those slippers went in the bin.

(That was for Xmas, not my birthday).

One of the benefits of being autistic and ruthlessly pragmatic. I don't 'do' birthdays or christmas, so it's literally impossible to be disappointed!

Downside is dealing with the fall out after someone buys me a gift I neither want nor appreciate, and I can't fake enthusiasm and delight. Ex never had a clue about my taste in clothes, yet every single year bought me something they thought I'd suit, then acted all insulted when I just handed it back and told them to get their money back. Every. Single. Christmas.

Some people don't learn it seems.

Don’t silently fume over it. Tell him you do not appreciate this kind of gift and don’t expect anything similar again.

DH bought me a pair of pink fluffy slippers for Christmas.He was really pleased with his haul of presents for me as we always get each other five or so things first. I didn’t say anything immediately, but I later said to him that these were slippers I might consider wearing when I am 80.

I then let the dogs play / destroy the slippers.

It's not too late to SEND BACK his present, even if you don't cancel it.

Buy him a cheap whisky tumbler and a joke blow-up golf club. 'Man present', innit?!

Twat.

Mil bought me a Tefal frying pan when I had dd!!.
Dh got me a sack of spuds. Claimed they would be needed now we had an extra dc to feed..
Wasn't quite sure how to liquidise potatoes and magic them into breast milk..
Now an exh..

Is no one gracious anymore? A lot of people get nothing; petulance is not attractive.

don't give him the gift you bought him - give him a jar of marmalade as his present.

@beenwhereyouare

Is no one gracious anymore? A lot of people get nothing; petulance is not attractive.

Please graciously accept this

Send his presents back OP! I don't think I'd mind a 'sexy' present as a joke in addition to something nice, but as a main gift absolutely not.

In fairness, I would love a Shark hoover for my birthday, sorry pp!