will counselling change anything?

[farfaraway3]

As I wrote in a previous post, after years of arguments and generally not being happy with each other – no love, no passion, no life – I told my partner I want to separate. He has now agreed to go to counselling. But I'm so jaded at the moment that I don't see what difference it could make (unless it actually CAN make him different person). I'd say i'm about 90% on leaving him, should I even consider that 10%...

Are the any counselling success stories?

If there is no love or passion left then you need to let go of each other rather than say hang on for the sake of any children here.

I would continue with your plans to separate. Its all far too little and far too late from him. You've probably asked him to attend such before many times.

Would also consider going to counselling on your own and without him present. You need to be able to talk in both a calm and safe environment.

You say you would need him to become a completely different person. As you know, no couples counselling could achieve that. He could get individual counselling/therapy to change himself. But that would require him having a lot of commitment to therapy and the work.

Most posts I've read on here about a partner improving, are usually followed by the OP saying the partner reverted back to their previous behaviour.