Move hasnt worked out, what next?

[londonirish415]

Hi All

I have been with my partner now for about 15 years, married with 2 children under 6.

About 4 years ago, we moved back to her hometown of Lisburn, NI. This move was largely to allow her to be closer to family and friends whilst the children were babies, giving her the support she needed. Given I was able to do my job remotely, this was a sacrifice I was prepared to make.

Fast forward to today, and im starting to get itchy feet about living in NI and raising my children here. Ive tried speaking with her about this but she shuts down the subject, suggesting there is no life for her back in England. Whilst this is partly true, im starting to become very disillusioned with being unable to move jobs, for example, due to lack of current employment opportunities, not to mention the lower salaries on offer in Northern Ireland.

Im also very concerned around the religious divide that exists. Whist there have been significant improvements over the years, this is still apparent and my children will grow up in this environment, having to pick a side almost.

I can see trouble ahead. I am reaching the point where I know I will be unable to sustain a career and lifestyle in a country I dont feel comfortable in.

Has anyone been in a similar position? Not really sure how I can approach this subject again without it developing into argument.

Thanks

Can you suggest a timescale of moving? Maybe when the kids leave junior school or before the youngest starts? The kids are still young and I understand if she has friends and family there why she doesn't want to move.
I have a friend who lives in NI and I've visited, so understand your concerns but as junior school kids surely they won't be too bothered who's on which side?

@londonirish415 This is not a NI thing. You do need to be afraid of NI.

This is about you moving to a new town and not being happy.! I am born of southern Irish parents , grew up in London and then had to move to midlands 10yrs ago with DH. I am very unhappy. It is not the Midlands fault i am unhappy here because i followed a DP and have l followed here.

I posted too soon..

Meant to say if you do not like living where you are then you need to talk to your partner. If you are unhappy you need to communicate with your DW .

Northern ireland and the island of Ireland is a great place to live. There are religious divides but this will resolve in time.

This is about you missing home and it's genuine.

You do need to be afraid of NI.
I had a typo ! meant you " You do not need to be afraid of NI".