Strange questions even before a first date

[Doingitaloneandproud]

Hi Ladies

I'm meant to be going on a first date but my gut isn't feeling 100% on it, I've spoken to my sister and work friend about it and they think not to go.. opinions would be great please

Spoke to him through Tinder, then exchanged numbers, he seemed nice enough, kept saying about his height (he's very tall) and saying it was great it wouldn't bother me if we are in a relationship

Then he started to quiz me, where I live (temp with parents due to mental health and saving to buy a place for my son and I, not ideal but it has worked wonders as I've been discharged from my psychologist from PTSD / anxiety and cleared any debt my ex racked up as a surprise leaving gift!)

So he was asking when I saw myself being able to buy and how much, then it was do I get a social life living with family, then who is the primary care giver for my son, how much money I earn, what my last breakup was like and him saying he doesn't have an amicable relationship with his ex. I didn't ask about that as tbh I find these a bit strong questions for someone I haven't even had a first date with.

All this has completely put me off and tbh my gut is telling me avoid this one

It sounds like you two wouldn’t be very compatible for dating, there’s nothing wrong with that but probably no point in going on a date with him.

TBH I am more in his boat on dating style than yours—I normally wouldn’t go on a first date with someone without knowing this stuff. However that is the benefit of sites like match, where they are much more structured to give a view of someone’s life.

Realistically if you were to date—even very causally—things like your situation with living and with children would impact that. So it’s not entirely weird to want to know, but if it makes you uncomfortable that’s also totally fine and normal.

Just not well matched!

He sounds like he would be manipulative or whatever,or at least pushy.

You already know how you feel about him, so there's no need to meet him. Block him, if anything, as he gives you the creeps.

Listen to your gut! You have these instincts for a reason.

He's evaluating you like a planned new home appliance purchase.

I'd cancel.

Good grief. He's bloody interrogating you. Nope nope nope. Cancel the date and then block.

Thank you all for your comments, I cancelled and blocked him. It's definitely not for me those kind of questions, I did have a male friend tell me someone even asked him his banding in his hospital role. He told me any sign of those questions and he's out.

I definitely need to listen to my gut more, and not be swayed, I did that for my last relationship and won't do that again

Thanks so much for all the support

My latest ex's first question was "yes, but are you rich", I did try and give it a chance, but I couldn't stand his questioning everything and after a month of dating I was out.
This bloke seems to have the same nosey nose. Trust your gut instinct !