So i separated from my husband 2 years ago this November. He stayed in the house and i moved out as i had always wanted to live else-ware anyway and he wanted to stay. Made sense and both happy with this. He bought me out of the house and we split the savings.
Once the money had come through for him to buy me out he started to delay transferring it over to the solicitor. In the end the only way i could get it quickly was to agree to what he wanted me to do. This was to write a statement on a bit of paper saying that i would not try and go back and get more money, including a right on his pension.
I am fast regretting doing this as he moved someone into the house 3 months later and they are still together. He also gave me 1k for the contents. That i've relaised was a very low amount as its cost me way more than that to kit out my new house.
Anyway...things are very amicable and we are actually good friends now. As the divorce approaches (2 year wait) i am getting more and more resentful of it. I dropped my hours in work to look after out daughter so my pension is way lower.
I'm so torn on what to do next. Part of me thinks i should just leave it alone and just walk away. The other part of me is screaming that i'm stupid. I'm entitled to ask for the pensions to be fairly split? Mine and his in the pot....
I'm wondering if the statement i wrote on the back of an envelope could be legally binding? Is it worth it? He will get very annoyed if i do this....
What would you do?