Boyfriend will not accept breakup

[sunstay]

I made a thread last week about wanting to end my 8 year relationship, I'm 22 and been together since age 14. My boyfriend hasn't done anything wrong he's a lovely person but I've just fallen out of love.

I finally got the courage to end the relationship (hardest thing I've ever done) and he broke down, it was heartbreaking to see I honestly felt awful. Now he keeps telling me he can't live without me and how he'll never be ok again etc, i literally feel like I've ruined his life it's so upsetting to see him so distraught. Where do I go from here? I feel like the worst person in the world.

P.S. You are not the worst person in the world. You are brave and honest.

Would your Ex honestly want you to be unhappy forever because you were too afraid to tell the truth ?

He is a kind and loving man, who deserves to be happy, loved and who will make someone a lovely husband someday..............you are being courageous and honest because you want that for him.

And if he's the man you think he is, then he'll want the same for you.

You need to cut contact.

It sounds cruel but it's actually a kindness, because if he keeps seeing, speaking and engaging with you, then it only delays him having to face the fact that the relationship is over. He'll spend all of his energy trying to persuade you to get back with him, when he actually needs to spend his time grieving and processing the break-up.

I'd send him one message, so that you don't go silent with no warning. Tell him that you are going to stop responding now because it's making things worse, that you care for him and wish him well. Then block - on mobile, email, and all social media.

It will take time but he'll get there.

Truth is you've just ended a long term relationship so you have to focus on you and can't help him through this.

It's hard disengaging from 8yrs of 'together' but you are not his girlfriend and him being sad doesn't change that.

He'll still be sad without you on the end of the phone, but not for as long.