Before Covid I was in the process of changing my job. My husbands employer is a dinosaur and while he can effectively WFH and did until recently they are incredibly inflexible. Historically if one of our daughters has been poorly I have ended up WFH and juggling poorly child. My husband wouldn’t even take off an hour to come to go to maternity growth scans with me as his work would make him make up the hours and he was willing and wouldn’t ask his boss. So I knew I would end up being the one having to constantly juggle a new job during lockdown and all childcare and home schooling. I deferred my new job until Autumn and have focussed on childcare. While I have been privileged to be home with my children it has been very stressful as my 4.5 year old has been incredibly challenging from a behaviour perspective. I am worn out every day. Dh comes home from work and basically says I am to do all the cooking and a lot of admin etc. Pretty much every day he says I am on holiday. I don’t see how a 4 and a 6 year old at home now since mid March is a holiday. I have done so many activities etc with them and spent time at weekends planning the coming week. I was begrudged going to gym classes on Sunday morning. He won’t step in to discipline my 4 year old when he gets home. Now he says he will take them on holiday in half term in October. I will have just started new job and won’t have enough vacation, though he could wait and go away Friday - Sunday with me he isn’t willing to include me. I suspect he may invite his mum instead- she is another issue. I feel I deserve a trophy after the work I have put in since March. I am a solicitor, and day in day out childcare etc is more tiring than having peace and quiet at work even if work is stressful. I have missed grown ups, felt stressed about my girls’ welfare and also feel angry that I have drained my bonus and savings to pay bills to cover the months I have been home with my husband not paying more than usual (where he could afford to) . DH clearly thinks it’s been a long holiday, and does not recognise or respect that I have done something to my detriment to help the family. When I start back at work I know I will end up dealing more with the kids, as I will still be able to WFH more than him. He cannot go to gym at work, so runs when he gets home rather than helping with kids. I will be expected to squeeze gym etc into my working day and just juggle everything- I know because it will be just like before. I am feeling bitter about my role and it’s impacting how I interact with DH. Am I unreasonable or is he selfish?