would you ask if he's still on for meeting tonight after a cancellation?

[sweetbirdofjuice]

I've been chatting to a man from OLD, meant to meet last week but he postponed until tonight due to a work deadline. Not really heard from him much since apart from a brief enquiry about my weekend and a quick chat I instigated prior asking him how the work was going.

Not heard from him all day. Should I assume we're off and he's not interested? We didn't name a time
or place so would need to be in touch before meeting and it's now 5pm.

I know it's silly and the obvious answer is 'text him and ask' but tbh I'm pretty fatigued with OLD and don't really feel like being the one to have to prompt or remind him even though he seems nice.

I wouldn't contact him, but I'd be amazed if he was in touch tonight, sorry.

I wouldn't message him, he cancelled last time so really it should be him making sure plans were in place. He doesn't sound very interested (I'm sorry for being blunt but don't waste your time with this guy)

When did you rearrange?

I’d leave it too sorry

I wouldn’t bother, Ned have been in contact before now if he’d wanted to meet. Can you organise a chilled night in for you instead? Nice food, wine, Netflix? Much better than chasing someone whose making no effort.

If you feel you cant be arsed chasing it up further then I'd just listen to your gut.

Chances are you'll get a confirmation questiony sort of message later on...but tbh unless he was a real hottie or something, I dont think I'd bother seeing him.

Cause if they are interested in more than a leg over, they would usually give longer notice than the night before.

He would have been in touch during today I'd have thought if it was on tonight. Most people would need notice surely?

I would say 'say message', but since he cancelled last time it really should be coming from him. If he does message, at this point I would definitely be busy with other plans.

And I agree with others that he doesn't seem that interested.

just message*

I wouldn't chase at this stage. I'm.not dating, but my mates, this late in the day with no venue or time = blown out.

I was supposed to going out to celebrate my sons GCSE results with a few other mums. But we only got as far as arranging tonight. On that basis I have had a drink and waiting for dh to take me out instead.

I find the chasing depressing

Don’t chase love

If he’s interested enough he will make some effort

greyishdays it was last week, the night before we were supposed to meet.

Thanks everyone, I'm actually really quite relieved that most or all of you feel the same. I was doubting myself and wondering 'am I playing silly games here?' by not texting but I would advise a friend as you all have, he's had all week to make plans after cancelling.

professor that sounds great but i will do some studying I think, get ahead of myself!

no word as of yet... blocked him now. Shame, he seemed like he had potential.

What a shit.

Keep your standards high and your expectations higher.

Good luck

He wasn't right for you, be grateful it ended quickly and fairly painlessly. It could have been so much worse.

I dont thinking its playing games waiting for them to text. He cancelled last time, it was his responsibility to rearrange this time. I'm a firm believer in matching someones effort and interest if they start acting like me and my time isnt important they get exactly the same back. Dating is a game, and I think you played this one perfectly. Yep, block, move on .....next.

Don’t chase. Doesn’t sound promising I’m afraid.
When I was OLD I followed “the rules” -
I had an actual book with them. The most important one was to never chase after a guy. If he’s properly interested he will get in touch.

Keep going though. I met both my xdp and Dh online. Now married for 9 years with 2 dcs.