Liking someone sends me crazy!

[Anxiouspiggie]

I am noticing a bit of a pattern. I have been dating someone for a couple of months and I am completely smitten with him. But as soon as I get these feelings for someone I start getting anxiety and it's a like a bit of an obsession! They occupy my every thoughts and I overthink every message or lack of message. I think they are not interested and then a message will make me happy albeit briefly. It's like I need constant attention and validation and it's soo annoying.

For example, I have plans to see this man tonight and yesterday in one of my messages I said I was really looking forward to seeing him and he replied with 'it makes the week a bit more enjoyable lol'. Now I am paranoid he is going to cancel our date tonight so I am anxious all day. Plus I haven't heard from him today so that just adds to it.

How do I deal with this, if he does change his mind I will have to deal with it but I wish I could just enjoy it.

Sounds like you have anxious attachment style. Try reading Attached by Amir Levine - it’s really helpful at explaining what’s going on. It really helped a friend of mine with their relationships.

I know this won't help but I'm the same so you're not alone. I try and read into every message, if my partner of 6 months sends a message with no kisses I look to see what I've done to upset him, or assume he's going to leave me. It's such hard work and I'm worried it will end up ruining the relationship.
Like I said I know it won't help answer your question but I think it's nice to know you're not the only one and definitely not crazy x

I can be the same if i allow it, I've learnt to put up my barriers a bit more and not obsess so much, in my new frame of mind if they are truly interested, they will keep making an effort, what will be will be, if not it was was never meant to be.

It's still early days and you're still learning to trust his reliability but as long as you think he keeps to his word then stop worrying.