Can you change someone

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I have fallen for a girl at my gym, she is straight as far as I know, we have had some contact back and forth away from the gym but it's me reaching out to her, this could be because I have just got out of a relationship, I don't know what to do I feel like there is something between us, stares and being near me, how do I know if she likes me is there anything else I could do to make her know and see if she likes me.. I can't come out and tell her in case she doesn't feel the same and I ruin things.

I’m assuming you’re a woman right she’s you’re talking about changing someone and her being straight.

I don’t think you can change someone from straight to gay (or vice versa).

Can’t you have a general conversation about relationships and the people she’s dated in the past?

To answer the question in the title the answer is no, you can only change yourself, but your behaviour can influence other people.
To answer the question in your post you just have to get your head round it, write down what you have to gain and lose and try to look at it from their point of view, then make a decision more logically on what to say or how long to wait.
If you are already in touch just keep in touch and see how it goes? But I'm not an expert.

I would just love to know if she feels the same way because I can't stop thinking of her, but if she doesn't I will ruin everything and won't be able to go back to that gym and just cut contact which I don't want to do

I came on to say you can’t change someone but someone can change themselves if they really want to. However, this doesn’t seem to be about changing anyone at all. If you fancy her you’ll have to be honest and accept what she wants.

If you’ve just got out of a relationship you’ll be on the rebound.

Much better to take time to be alone for a while until you’re yourself again.

Jumping from one relationship to the next means you don’t feel the pain but it will catch up with you and you’ll break the heart of the rebound relationship person you sate.