Social services

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Hi just hoping for some advice-long story so I do apologise.
So 3 months ago my daughter (13)reported she seen my partners phone above the bathroom door whilst getting changed (I was at work) I came straight home and and kicked him out. Now my daughter story didn't quite add up (saying she seen the bank card in the back of his phone case... That was on the bedroom side) and as soon as the police where mentioned she quickly went back and forth on her story saying maybe in was the cat/something out of the corner of her eye ect.
The police promptly arrested him and social services came. The social worker was happy to put us on a child in need plan not child protection due to my quick safeguarding and obvious care for my children. At this point I signed a written agreement stating William could only have contact with the children (13) (9) his step children and then (1) our son together. After 6 weeks the police came back with not enough evidence to charge so case was dropped. Further along the line a lado meeting was held (he works with children and was suspended) and the case was resolved as unfounded - meaning he was safe to go back to work. At this point my daughter is still saying she isn't sure what she seen but wants us to be back together as a family and that she feels safe with partner here. We have a new social worker who's adamant that if he keeps questioning my daughter that she will tell him the truth. She has said repeatedly said she's not sure what she seen. Also in regards to us being back together as a family he repeatedly says just because he isn't a risk to the 150 children he works with doesn't mean he isn't a risk at home? It's in my impression that if the police/lado team thought he was a risk to any child at all he would not be allowed to work with children? At a loss of what to do next? This has been 14 weeks of hell more so for the younger children and with all members of the family wanting the same thing but we are now being held up by the social care team. If anyone can advise me on what I can do I would be greatful
Thanks

What do you want advice on? Wether to get back together or not?

Op you need advice from the social worker who knows the nuances, not Mumsnet.

It's correct though that he could (not saying he is, but could) be a risk to your child and still in work. There's a very big spectrum between 'absolutely safe' and 'enough evidence to strike someone off'. Its also sadly not unusual for people to contain this type of behaviour in the home, where they have more power and control.

It's entirely possible that your child can't remember exactly or wasnt completely sure what they saw. But to me, if they have told you this and it wasn't 100% accurate it suggests two things - either theyve jumped to conclusions because they were already feeling creeped out, or there was a reason they said something drastic knowing that he'd be made to leave. Either way id think about that, and why your child might have said this, rather than focusing on whether she definitely saw the bank card that might or might not have been in the phone case.

Hi I’ve recently split from girls dad due to D/v, Time is split with me having 5 day and him 2. I suffer with my mental health and resentful ending up in mental hospital, girls are on a cpp plan due to emotional neglect which kills me, my ex has had the girls for my short stay in hospital, now s/s are questioning the girls returning to me, dad wants them to return as he has to work. What can I do I would never subject my kids to harm I know when my health becomes effected. They are due back tomorrow but s/s are saying no

@eeyore16, it sounds awful for you, but if you start your own thread, you will get better support. This one is really old.

My advice though, is TALK to social services. Work with them. They are not child thieves, they do want to help.

Yer may be best to get your own thread going.
But personally I wouldn't go against ss, I would try and work with them. May be you can gradually take care of them. Eg, have them for a few hours, then all day increasing it. I suspect ss are conserned about you having no down time and the intensity of having children on your own when you have been ill.

You could also agree that you would have another adult with you, this would provide you with back up and emotional support if you start to struggle. The other thing is next week is school holidays so if theirschool age you could suggest you have them once they return to school. Giving you a natural break when their at school.
Or just have them while he's at work and then he collects them every night.
I hope your feeling better xx