Please help me with what to say

[Mygirlsareeverything]

Hi,

Just wondering if anyone has any words of wisdom to help me with the following please,

My now ex partner, of over 20 years, decided to end it with me a little while ago. We’re still living together and have 2 DC. He has already moved on.

Delayed I know but I need to tell my sisters and mum. I’m ready to do this but just don’t know how to tell them. My mum is elderly and I know she is going to be upset and worried. I know that I will become very worried about her and i’m just about keeping it together for myself and DC.
A big part of me feels very embarrassed and I feel like a failure.
Thank you

IF you don’t want to discuss it with them in depth just say something like
‘X and I haven’t been getting on and have separated, the children and I are doing ok and we’re working out what to do with the house. There’s not much more I can tell you now but will let you know how things go.’

IF you do want to to talk in depth and want to let them know you are NOT ok, edit and add to the above.

Dohorseseatapples thank you

I feel so nervous. My aim is to tell them in the next couple of days

It will be fine in time xxxx

Choose your time.
Tell them.
Let them respond. Give their shock space.
After an hour or so, end the meeting or conversation and give them space.

Very soon after this, it will start to become more normal and accepted.

And take care of yourself xxx you'll be fine I promise xxx

Keep it simple, to the point, factual.
Vague even.
When you feel stronger you can talk about it in more detail if that’s what you want.
You are in control of this.
You can bat questions off with a vague ‘I’m not sure at the moment’/ ‘Yes, we’re working that out...’
However, just say as little or as much as you want.

Good luck OP. Try not to worry x

Somethingtosay All taken on board, thank you

Dohorseseatapples thanks for your encouragement