Why do women put other women down?

[Fightingback16]

I’m generalising for this thread but.....

Why does this always happen. For instance I’m raising money for a particular charity that helps women and the responses from many of my fellow work colleagues have been “well its there fault” “I would never put up with that” “what is wrong with her” and many more.

Do they do it because they have issues of their own that they don’t want to admit because they don’t want to seem vulnerable? For example one lady said about women who stay in abusive relationships, “I’d never put up with that, it’s their own fault” ....but she binge eats, is very overweight and had unprotected sex as a teenager and now has a 12 year old son who has no father....surely she can have some empathy. I always catch people having little discussions where they bitching about fellow women colleagues and have to break it up.
I’m sure they aren’t angels or truly that amazingly happy with all that they have or have done in their own lives...

Why does this happen?

P.s not all women are like this!

And people turn up to work to make money, not to be made uncomfortable and touted for cash for someone’s hobby charity. I think it’s totally inappropriate to try and get money from people at work, particularly when you then allude to her having debt issues. I might shut down any conversation promptly to let you know you wouldn’t be getting any cash.

She said it to your face, you posted it on a chat forum behind her back?
The sentiment was the same.

It's because we are essentially in a battle for survival. We want the best opportunities for ourselves and our offspring. Some people think the best way to achieve that is by being negative about others.

I have more male friends that female friends (yes' I'm one of those women who get on better with men than women - so what)..... I do find men don't talk about people behind their backs - that's just a fact that I have noticed.

The only women I know who 'just get on better with men' like undivided male attention - that's just a fact I've noticed.

Of course men talk about other people behind their backs, don't be a silly billy.

Men are just as big gossips as women, they just wrap it up differently.
Life is competitive, if your a pack/group type personality then you compete for your place in the pack. There will always be an omega/scapegoat in each group. If you are lucky you have a more individual type personality you are free to move/drift between groups of people. It all starts when we are young and plays out in every social setting throughout our lives.
I’m definitely a drifter I hate to be tied to one set of people socially.

@HyaluronicHippo I’m sorry where did the being made to feel uncomfortable about supporting a charity come from. If we can we should contribute to those less fortunate then ourselves. If you can’t then you can’t, no one is made to feel uncomfortable.

Some humans are decent some aren't. I think humans are more judgemental than ever now or maybe it's just so much FB and Twitter putting everyone's opinions out there.

But if you don’t want to support by telling people they got themselves in the situation so it’s their fault but you want support from others when you need it then that’s really double standards.