If you're meeting a guy for the first time in a coffee shop...

[LupinsNotLilys]

What do you wear?! Do you hug? Do I offer to pay for my coffee/his coffee/insist?

Meeting around lunchtime tomorrow. I've not had a date of any sort for over 20 years and I'm starting to overthink. I know it's ridiculous

Please help! 😂

Casual jeans, nice top. No hugging (corona), I would offer to pay but hope that he would then say no good luck OP!

Casual clothes and social distancing. I always wanted to share the cost when I was dating - a value I found especially helpful if I knew I wasn't going to see someone again.

We're just meeting in a costa @DDIJ from what I can gather the staff seat you once you're there. Thinking I need a plan B in case they're full though

Casual, jeans, nice top. Got it 👍

I kinda like the idea of paying for my own but don't want to come across rude? I guess I'll have to see how he is

Went to a Costa last week, in a Next store, and we sat where we wanted to.

I would go to pay for my own drink, but accept if he offers to pay.

I usually have first dates at a coffee shop OP. The advantage is if they are dreadful you don’t have to stay very long!

If we’re meeting in there and I’m there first I will buy myself a coffee and find a table. However usually we queue up and order together, he automatically pays in my experience. Had it been dinner I would have offered to go halves.

I wear a pretty dress or jeans & a nice top.

Definitely don’t over think and Enjoy!

I always get there first to avoid that problem (also hate the looking around for them part!)

Wear what makes you feel pretty but comfortable is my best advice!

I love day dating in the summer because casual is so much easier when you can wear flats. I'd go for a nice knee length floaty dress, flip flops and denim jacket, or skinny Jean's nice t shirt and sandals.
Beach waves hair and minimal make up.

No hugging, because of the virus, God I cant remember last time I hugged someone, which is sad.

I'd offer to pay but he will probably offer to, although if you stay for a 2nd coffee I'd defo buy those.

Have fun op, nice casual first date.

Could you meet somewhere and walk there? (Gives you a chance to be a couple of minutes late and check him out as you arrive 😉)

Remember if you like him to arrange a second date while on the first!

I met my last BF in Costa, I got there first, so was already seated with my own coffee bought

I'd prefer to be there first with own coffee bought (I like a sparkling water with my coffee) but we've agreed to meet outside

Gonna go with jeans and a nice top. Can't wear sandals as it's showers tomorrow

Didn't realise I lacked so much confidence in this area!

Good point @toucancancan that's a great idea, thank you

I never paid or offered to. I'd have paid if anyone asked though. Coffee dates I wore skinny jeans and a bodysuit or fitted top, heels or heeled boots ( nothing baggy or mumsy floral).
Sundress of some sort and wedges if it was warm out. Sometimes in winter I would wear a close fitted ribbed jumper dress, opaque tights and knee high boots. No hugging hello or goodbye unless they instigated it. If they tried to put a hand on my leg or knee, it got removed swiftly ( think it happened once).
Only gave them one hour tops less if they didn't buy a second drink and ended it first. 'This was lovely, great chatting but I must be going, meeting a friend/ shopping to do'. Worked for me. Always got second dates.

Heels or no heels?

I'm a size 14 so got some curves to think about. I wear flats I look like a sausage. I wear heels and I'm a tall sausage

In some Costas you can order on the app and then collect from one end of the counter.

I'm tall as well (5ft 10) and always wore a heel. Doesn't have to be a huge one. I have a very girly style though in general.

Ooh good luck! I'd go casual but smart. Jeans, nice top and light make up

If you get on and the weather is good you might want to go for a walk so comfy shoes but not too frumpy
Good luck!

I have always offered to pay for both of us.

Nothing wrong with being a tall sausage.

Lol yeah , tall sausages rock . I’m one too .
You’ve got great advice here , just wanted to say good luck . It’s hard when you have been out of the game so long, x

Good luck! I'm exactly the same as you. Toying with the idea of a first date in over 30yrs!!!!!
Not sure if I've got the confidence

Well, my day didn't go to plan...

Ended up having to cancel. Had to take my Ds to the walk in centre. Not a great start is it!

Good luck to all those dating and thank you for the advice, hopefully I'll get a chance to use it next time! 😁