I spent over 15 years working as a carer in the community. All my clients were either bed-bound or were not able to do the job that I was being paid for - cooking, cleaning, personal care, laundry etc.
I always left the houses spotless, knowing that they are not able to clean up and in any case, the mess was either from me or the previous carer. I apply these principles in everything that I do. I do not expect other people to clean after my mess.
Over the years, I have lived with many people and in general, they will make a mess and leave it for someone else to clean. My last ex, expected me to pay 50/50 for everything. I asked him to do half of the house chores, he took cleaning cloths and wiped the kitchen counter and then slammed the door behind him going off to his mother's house.
I asked him to move into the spare room, he decided to move to his mother's house. At the time he was around 48 years old. He made a big show of it making my neighbours know that he was moving out. He was not aware at the time, but he had just bought himself a one-way ticket. Tried to come back, I refused.
Why do some men expect women to clean after them? I cannot even now think of being in a relationship where you have to ask a grown arse man to clean, put the washing on or cut the grass.
Why do parents allow their grown-up adults to move back with them?