As the title says I really need some advice to help me leave my husband.
I know the first point of contact should be a solicitor but some help from you lovely mumsnetters would really be appreciated.
I have reached the conclusion that my marriage is over. It's not a terrible marriage, although husband is quite emotionally abusive. I absolutely cannot do anything for a year as have teens doing exams next year and I have no intention of disrupting their lives anymore at this critical time.
I have reached a milestone in my life and after finally finding an amazing doctor and sorting out my health I feel I have the strength to leave and actually look forward to a future.
So to the problems. I haven't worked properly in 10 years, although I do some work for my husbands business (obviously can't carry on with this) I need to find some work at the age of 50 with not much experience and training.
Have a house valued at around £900k with a £450k mortgage. Not much in savings and not much in pension.
Husbands business is doing ok but not worth a great deal. Husbands family are very wealthy and he will probably inherit quite a sum when they pass. Although I have no interest in taking the 'family' money and no intention to wait around for them to pass so I could benefit from it.
My children know I am unhappy and have been very frank with me and said that we both deserve to be happy and if that is not together then so be it. Although a divorce would have a huge impact on them financially as I couldn't afford a house in the area we live, wouldn't get a mortgage anyway, so would mean going into some kind of rented accommodation. I'm guessing that because of the age of the children the split would be 50/50 and I really wouldn't want to take anymore than I am entitled to. Also do not want to bring up the emotional abuse as I wouldn't like my children to hear stuff like that about their father, who they both love deeply.
I do have parents who can support me emotionally but not financially and some good friends. Husbands family would cut me off completely as they have done this to SIL who left their other son.
Have other family who I could possibly live with but they are in another country and the children would not want to move there and I couldn't go without them. Any ideas you lovely people on how I should move forward?