How to get over this

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Serious nc for this, please check with MNHQ for verification, I'm not a troll. Thank you. Been a member for about 10 years now.

I'm in my mid/late 50's (relevant) and adopted.
I have just found out I'm the product of incest and the man/ my father raped other girls under 16.
I'm sure it was part responsible for my bm untimely young death.
I have been vomiting since i found out and can hardly keep food down.
Can you prosecute somebody when the victim is dead.
There is proof, me in the form of DNA. The other person I know of doesn't know I know yet. Somebody else told me when I revealed my father.
My immediate family have been so supportive but I can't keep putting them through it.
Have called for counselling but a long wait, my head feels like it's going to explode. I know where he lives I want to go round and harm him. I want to send a letter and tell him I know what he did to my bm and another poor child (at the time)

Can I even report him, he'll be in his 70's now, he could have a computer with illegal child images, I don't know.

OMG, what do I do now?

Anyone?
Especially if you know anything about the law.
He can't be allowed to get away with it.
Would you contact the other victim, I do know her, but it would open up old wounds, surely.

What an awful thing for you to find out. I really don't have any advice except maybe ring a helpline to see if they would know more about what your options are and how they could help you.

Im not sure how it would work with the victim being dead BUT i would certainly say its worth a 101 call to your force and speak to someone about it, as you are correct, he may have continued to offend x

Thank you for the replies.
It's horrible and so little advice out there on anything to do with incest. Obviously, it's such a taboo subject and disgusting.
I know it doesn't define me and nobody knows, but I feel dirty and like I shouldn't have been born.
I tell my family and talk to them, but the kids (older) don't understand and dh can only help by listening.
I'm so mad that he will get away with it if victim(s) won't come forward.

Sent you a PM.

Could you try private counseling? I know it’s not cheap, but could this does feel like an emergency situation.

I really hope time will heal and bring inner peace. I also hope your counselling starts sooner rather than later.