Does the pain ever get better?

[Leo89]

I know there are so many threads out there on break ups and navigating it, but I am at rock bottom. I never thought things would ever turn out how they have, but at this present time I feel like theres no way things will ever get better. He was the love of my life, home, engaged, together 6 years. Then he went distanced and we mutually decided to break up. I thought he may sort his act out and want me. He bought me out of the home and met someone very very very quickly. It’s taken a year for him to now show this girl to the world, but I have disappeared. He told me a while ago he’d never love anyone like me and his pictures were the happiest years of his life, so I don’t get why, for someone wanting to have a friendship one day and me to leave things nicely so he can get in touch, why he’d burn the bridge.

I am so hurt, lost, and upset. I can’t help but compare myself to this girl and I feel there’s no point anymore as I’m so repulsive.

Does it get better? And how do I have the strength if his rebound relationship or whatever it is doesn’t work out, to be able to ignore him :(

@MarieGold that would be lovely :). Yeah, I think they’d heard enough so I don’t feel it’s fair to still talk about it all x

OP, I've been in love and had 5 significant relationships in my life. At the time they each truly felt like the loves of my life but I've always found someone else (and I have been the one to end things most of the time).

I had my heart broken last year and yet I managed to find someone who was a better match after I got over him. This time last year, all my thoughts were consumed by him.

It is better that you are no longer friends because it would hurt more and it would take you longer to move on. Date and have fun. You are full of love and you will find someone who deserves your love.

I met my first love at 19 and we were together for four years. The split was, without question, the most painful experience of my life.

I thought I'd never find love or be happy again.

47 now and have been in love multiple times and very happy.

Grieve the loss, but put a time limit on it. Your life is not over. It's open now for other people and experiences. You will be ok in time x

Thank you everyone. I just need to realise that break ups are normal and happen x

@Windmillwhirl thank you. I know I need to now start getting my head around it. I feel I could have done this, if he’d been honest. He met this person and instead of being honest, he just went super aggressive but hadn’t told me he’d found someone else

I understand your hurt. What he did was cowardly, but he is clearly not for you, even if you felt he was.

Try and focus less on him and more on what will make you feel good . He is t the only man on earth

@Windmillwhirl exactly :). He’s just been very unfair after 5 years. Telling me things such as it will hit him one day, which means I should be waiting for it to. He’s awful. He’s just made me feel disgusting which I’ll never forgive him for x

Thank you everyone ❤️

Hope you are ok OP? I know dreary Sundays are never the best when you're feeling low. Hope you've got something to keep you occupied 😊

@Legallybleachblonde thank you. Yes they are, slightly easier now life has got some normality. I just sit and overthink. I’m my own worst enemy x