OLD has asked to meet

[PilatesPeach]

been chatting for a week on and off, he has asked to meet, offered to buy me lunch or dinner but said in the invitation to meet in his home town which for me is about an hour an 20 min solid drive - I feel a bit put out being expected to do all the driving - ok he offered to pay but still feel a bit put out somehow - am I being a bit unreasonable? Would really rather meet halfway and split the bill - just wondered what others might think.

Whilst I don't want to overreact, I feel this is a bit of a red flag. I feel it is an easier thing to pay expecting someone else to sit for the best part of 3 hours in a car (assuming no traffic issues)

Back to his I ment x

ooh I hope not! Years ago I might perhaps have done so but not now - am not Mary Whitehouse but as I have got older, I am much more about personality and qualities like kindness, patience & humour (so long as they don't look like the back end of a bus!)

Unless you are looking for a once-a-week thing, I'd tighten up your distance perameters.

He's the ideal distance for me - a weekend thing and that's all. but if you want a relationship? Think again, especially as he has shown himself reluctant to travel.

Toxics will test boundaries early on. Not meeting halfway at this distance is a huge boundary push, so I'd forget it. If you must persist, then say no, nominate a midway town and see what happens. But always remember - he boudary-pushed early. Be alert for more of that.

Wealthy people genuinely don’t raise it. And don’t tend to say they are loaded It’s a bit gauche

When you say chatting do you mean talking or messaging?

No way would I travel that far for a date. Stick to your instincts, offer half way and if he doesn't accept then something was off.

Maybe he has lost his licence or can't drive so why would you want to pursue a relationship as longterm it will not fit into your life.

Yes thanks everyone I agree.

Am not finding OLD good at all - I have another messaging me and keeps asking if I have time free during the day - no I don't I work - makes me think he is married or attached or at least not mindful of the fact that many people under 60 (or indeed over) still work.