Found something interesting

[Cassandra1]

Hi I‘be posted previously about not being happy in my relationship etc. So my husband was flicking though twitter and as I walked past I caught a glimpse of naked women on the newsfeed. That’s fine I don’t care, although shit would hit the fan if I had naked men on my phone. He kind of turned it off very quickly. I didn’t say anything I just thought well, well, well. I don’t have twitter but I created an account just to investigate further. I know some people may not agree with that but I was intrigued. If I asked him outright it would have somehow been turned into me! So yes there are a couple of naked models he follows to look at the pictures I imagine. But also there is a “page he follows” which is naked women and it’s kind of a chat page, like click here to chat, txt this number to chat, webcam etc. So, I wanted to get peoples opinion, do you think he is speaking to these people or just perving on the pictures? My gut says he’s messaged! TIA

You don’t need an excuse to leave, but am I right in thinking you need 5 unreasonable behaviours to divorce ?
Why can’t you just not want to be married anymore, it seems so antiquated.

Two years separated with consent from both people.

5 years separated without consent.

You don't have to be living separately to claim you're separated, just not eating together, bed sharing etc.

Law is changing now to allow no fault divorces in England.

I think op has five instances of unreasonable behaviour in this thread alone incidentally.

Oh honestly, if I go out with the girls I don’t hear the end of it.
I sometimes go out after work, i work most weekends so don’t get a “proper” night out,I work in a bar and I finish at 1am and go out with friends and get home at 4 sometimes 5 if we’re having fun,,,I know this is super late. But actually I’m only out for 4 hours. He goes out at maybe 12noon and comes home at 3am and tells me “look I come home at a reasonable hour” although he has been out drinking for like 15 hours but he doesn’t understand this.
I went away for the night with friends and he said he was going to come up with the kids, and when I said really? I’m with the girls having some chill time he acted like I was horrible. Like I say I do get nights out etc but man do I hear about it. Accusations of cheating etc. I know I need to leave this situation but it scares me to death starting the conversation with him

You know your husband, we do not. Trust your gut instinct.

but it scares me to death starting the conversation with him

There's your answer. That's not a normal reaction to wanting to finish a healthy and functional relationship.

You don't tell abusive men that you're leaving as the abuse escalates when they feel they are losing control. Get some support to leave OP. Call you local DV organisation and have a chat.