Partners "liking" photos on Facebook

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I'd just like to know people opinions on partners/boyfriends/girlfriends liking photos of others on Facebook.

Mainly boyfriends/husbands that see another woman change her profile picture... it's of just her, looking her best, and he "likes" it. So selfies, not normal family photos. Hope this makes sense.

Is this ok to you?
Does it depend on the woman in question?
I would just like honest opinions as the topic came up between me and a friend.

Also goes both ways of course. If you are a man is it ok to you for your partner to do this?

I don’t see the big deal - when people change their profile picture normally lots of their friends will like it.

It’s only a big deal if that’s ALL they do on there.

Neither of us are great Facebook users but we both tended to do this initially, we just thought it was the done thing. OH doesn't bother now he thinks its a bit silly. We don't repost etc, lots of Facebook is bit like spam.

If the woman is a friend of his then yes it's fine. Friends should always big each other up and a like is just like saying "hey you look nice today" which is fine imo (unless it's always directed at one person in a sleezy way)

I think this is such a broad topic with so many variables, that it's hard to say. I had an ex who never complimented me but would "like" numerous pics of other women. So in that scenario, it was hurtful. On the other hand, if it was a secure relationship and the woman was a long standing friend then I'd be ok with it, unless it started happening every time they changed their pic! As I say, so many variables!

I think it depends on the pattern on behaviour, rather than a blanket yes or no.

So for example, neither DH or I are overly active on Facebook so if we started suddenly interacting and interacting with only one person, that would potentially be a problem. If someone is relatively active on FB and is also liking other profile pictures/posts from other people, then I don’t think it’s an issue. If the person is relatively active and just liking photos of women by themselves, they aren’t liking when their cousin/best friend/ sister changes their profile picture, that’s probably cause for concern.

People have an automatic click on LIKE I think regardless of the post.

Christ, what's the point of being Facebook friends with someone if you're not "allowed" to interact with them or get into shit for liking their photos?!

Either you're cool with him having female friends and shock horror liking their photo - or you don't trust him and need to think about why and whether the relationship is worth it.

I think caring - and monitoring - of what your partner ‘likes’ on FB or instagram is strange for anyone who isn’t a teenager.
Making it an issue is more of a sign of insecurity than of anything else.

Social media is all about superficial interactions and likes are just one type of that. It doesn’t mean anything. It certainly doesn’t mean your partner is secretly hoping to get it on with the ‘likeee’

I wouldn’t like it, no. I don’t see why people have to interact with members of the opposite sex on social media etc when they’re married or in relationships. It makes me very uneasy. But then my ex dh left me for an ex he reconnected with through Facebook so I clearly have issues, maybe understandably. Thankfully my now dh feels the same as me.

Maybe it’s a generational thing to see interactions on social media as some different sort of interactions.

@Bagelsandbrie - the way you phrase it, it seems that you’d prefer that a married person not interacted with members of the opposite sex at all. And that is not realistic and very very insecure.
I am sorry that your ex left you for someone he talked to online. But it doesn’t mean that online interactions is any different to real life ones. If he left you for someone he met in a cafe, or on a street - would you prefer your now H didn’t leave house unattended?

I have no issue with this, I like my males friends profile pics if they are a nice photo, many of my male friends like mine, and I'm sure DH likes ones from his friends male and female alike. I might get a bit if it was only one female repeatedly but generally speaking I doubt I would even notice he had !

I like photos of friends and wouldn't care if my DP did either? If it was someone I knew he fancied in a bikini bending over then probably not, but pics of his female friends out and about? Who cares.

Wouldn't bother me. I like selfies of my male friends

Thanks for the input everyone 😊

I think it depends on who the person is, my OH will like pictures of old school friends etc and that’s fine. But I think liking pictures clearly because they have there body on show etc is sleazy and shouldn’t be accepted.

Well I am 39 so hardly a different generation; although I do think people in their early 20s or late teens have a bit of a different attitude to social media in general.

I don’t have an issue with my dh having female work friends, but if he started to interact with one in particular online - liking stuff, comments etc, or texting, I wouldn’t like that. I think it’s a bit dodgy. I think we’re all told it’s okay etc but it’s still a mild form of flirty behaviour on the whole and I really don’t like it.

I tend to like my friends new photos whether family or just them and DH isn't bothered.
However I do this with men and women, my 18 year old cousin or my friends 82 year old grandpa.

If it was just stunningly beautiful people then it would be a bit weird and I'd think they may appear creepy.

But as it my DH tends to like people's jokes more than anything else.

If it's just the like button then it's probs ok, unless an excessive amount.

The heart/love button - might be a bit weird.

Commenting with compliments about how fit they are - I had an ex who did this, asked him why and he said he only did it to cheer up female friends who were having a tough time. Gave me the ick tbh, a sleazy compliment wouldn't make me feel better about anything! Funnily enough he didn't do the same for his male friends.