Hi people, I have been married to H, (not really DH) for 23 years and together for 26 years. We are quietly ticking away at being together at the moment as we are not in a position to separate. We have children 20, 17, 12. He is passive aggressive with issues from his childhood. (Too nice I think). Over bearing mummy syndrome! I am very very tired of it all. His passive aggressive behaviour has all but finished me. He is miserable, sulky, talks like a baby when he's in a good mood with me and looks like he hates me at other times. I've tried to get hom into therapy for the last 20 years but he has never gone and took antidepressants for about 2 weeks and lied to me about them for months. He is rude to people I introduce him to as part of my/our work and wont speak to people. He never sees his friends and they think he's boring now which is true. He doesn't have anything to talk about as he works on his own and doesn't see his friends or any one else. He has in the past asked to come back home when me and the kids made him leave. Then everything goes back to his usual sulking demeanour. I have begged him, shouted at him, cuddled him and whispered to him and loved and protected him in bids to make him happy and stay as a family. We have a massive mortgage because he has lived our whole married life on credit that he has added to the mortgage for 25 years. When i type this I sound pathetic but I have always wanted my children to have a daddy in the house. It has not all been bad. He can be funny when he wants to, but that's the point. He doesn't want to be funny or have fun. He hides from it. I am planning to learn to drive and seperate next year as I will lose my job when we split. Just wondered how others have got through it. I feel like I'm plotting to break my children's hearts and change their lives badly but I can't hold on much longer.