My original thread is here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3982438-My-partner-attacked-me-today
Tomorrow it will be three weeks since this happened. Unfortunately, all my reservations around involving the police have come to fruition. They didn’t seize his phone despite being assured they would, and the officer who interviewed seemed to feel sorry for him (detailed in the original thread). CCTV wasn’t looked into and house calls to neighbours weren’t made.
I was assigned a different officer who I met a week ago. She told me she would do the CCTV and house calls herself and would call me that evening. I said I would give a statement and we agreed we would do it the following day. However, she didn’t call me as promised and only got in touch again this morning, by text, to tell me ‘CCTV and house calls provided no evidence’. Well, I’m not surprised. It’s not very likely somebody is going to remember some neighbours shouting 2-3 weeks ago which is why I was so keen they did it ASAP.
I texted back to ask if we could speak on the phone and she said she would call me in the afternoon. She didn’t, so I contacted her department and apparently she’d left for the day.
I appreciate the police are busy but I only went ahead with this at their insistance. I didn’t want to speak to the police in the first place due to previous bad experience but they kept calling and asking me to speak to them at the station.
I feel let down. If they’d seized his phone like they said they would and made house calls within the first few days then it might be a much stronger case. Instead it’s now a my word against his scenario, with photos of bruises that of course his defence will argue were unrelated.
I don’t think I can put myself through this. I have no confidence in my local police force. I want him to face the full consequences of what he’s done but this feels like a losing battle. I feel like I’ve lost and he wins. He’ll walk away from this like it never happened, but I’ll carry it with me for a long time yet.
