Sex life an issue

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Hello, been in a relationship with DH for 12 year. I've never had a huge sex drive and it's gone up as an issue before. He feels shit about me pushing him away. I do love him and do find him attractive I just very rarely feel in the mood for it. When we do have sex it is good but it's just rare I'll feel up for it or even giving him BJs or HJs. Does anyone have this bissue?

Once a weeks reasonable after 12 years,

According to who? Who has set the bar for reasonableness at this level?

Why not twice a week or once a month?

It can be anything from once a week to once a month just depends on me really. He would be happy with one a week every week. Will have to see how we get on. . . ...

I would find rejection on a regular basis hard to take - my DW doesn't often give me a direct no, if she's not up for it she usually offers to "assist" me in one way or another or she might tell me to rub one out and she's happy for me to do that in the bed next to her. She says she gets satisfaction from it, not sexually but, as she put it, like cooking you a nice meal or buying you a small present. Works for us, we've been together 30 years.