What makes a good partner?

[JennyO123]

My last long term relationship involved some emotional abuse, which it took me too long to notice, and now I'm questioning my judgement of people. I'm dating someone at the moment who has some really good qualities but I don't adore everything about him, which i guess is normal. I'm therefore after some opinions on what other people think makes a good partner.

I think it depends on you’re own tastes etc. Some traits I think are important are

*Funny (I love to laugh and have good banter!)
*Dependable
*Thoughtful (this is a HUGE one for me!)
*Intelligent (can talk about light subjects and the heavier stuff)
*Responsible
*Hard Working
*Chemistry (gotta feel the “spark”- spent too many years thinking it’s ok not feel it as long as they were “nice”- the spark is important! (To me!))
*Independent
*Protective (Not in a possessive way- in the way that I know I’m “safe” with him)
*Has to love kids and dogs!!

Someone who makes you feel at ease, whilst also supporting you, empowering you and making you want to be your best self.

@NotaCoolMum

I think it depends on you’re own tastes etc. Some traits I think are important are

*Funny (I love to laugh and have good banter!)
*Dependable
*Thoughtful (this is a HUGE one for me!)
*Intelligent (can talk about light subjects and the heavier stuff)
*Responsible
*Hard Working
*Chemistry (gotta feel the “spark”- spent too many years thinking it’s ok not feel it as long as they were “nice”- the spark is important! (To me!))
*Independent
*Protective (Not in a possessive way- in the way that I know I’m “safe” with him)
*Has to love kids and dogs!!

That's my partner (except the funny bit). However, there are things that have happened in our relationship which means that we are likely to split after 12 years together :'(

Easy going, funny, chatty, kind, calm, generous, sympathetic. My dh makes me laugh every day and I think that's so important.

@Wondersense hope you're ok.

All of the below is what I expect in a relationship after being in an abusive one in the past:

Respectful
Easy going
Kind
Funny
Honest
Compromises on things
Good communicator
Anger control/discusses things fairly (my ex used to belittle and name call if my opinion differed from his and would get angry)
Self-confident but, not egotistical.
Has a good circle of friends/sociable/hobbies
Healthy attitude towards sex.. Respects what is comfortable wouldn't force sexual activity that is outside my comfort zone.

Aww @Wondersense I’m so sorry 😞 hope you’re ok xx