Cooking

[Dreamerland]

Do all working mums cook 7 nights a week?Is there any help from partner.
Would like to hear how others cope.

@Brianna85
Well your partner/husband has got you right where he wants you hasnt he?

The correct etiquette when someone has taken time and effort to cook a meal (even when not perfect' is to eat it, say thank you and carry on with the evening.

It is not polite to complain and moan.

If my boyfriend moaned about anything he wouldnt be getting another meal cooked for him ever.

I think you need to look at your relationship a bit closer.

What's his excuse for why you should be doing all the housework as well as working FT when he's not working? Does he admit it's because he thinks housework is women's work?

Does he agree that it's hugely unfair for all the general living chores to fall on one person when there are two people creating mess in the house?

And does he think that the person who works longer hours should do less of the chores?

Shared in our house, not strictly 50/50 but depends on who has had the busier schedule, is around at teatime etc.

Simple. Don't cook for him.
Lazy twat

My husband does most of the cooking as I work full time and he doesn't. I do actually like cooking and am better at new recipes than he is, so I do still cook. We also have three kids to make sure are fed.

I sincerely hope you do not have children with this man. He sounds like a nightmare slave driver.

This is a tough habit to break.
He is using bullying tactics to get his own way.
I've known men go hungry or spend the bill money on chip shops or takeaways rather than go into the kitchen and feed themselves.
It is really hard to stand up to a bully. If you did not cook his dinner(say) would he find a way to punish you? Aggressive behaviour or pointed silent moody ignoring treatment?

@Brianna85

I cook every night, and make packed lunches at weekends I make breakfast too.

He can cook, just chooses not to.

However on the rare occasion I ivercook something, he will complain and say it was horrible and then tell me he's going to start cooking, that he enjoys cooking - makes it out as if I've taken a passion of his away from him!

Then the next day it's the regular routine and I make dinner only I'm careful not to overcook it.

Why do you accept that from him?

It's a pretty even split in our house. DH is a really good cook but works late four evenings a week. He cooks on the other three though. He also does a fair bit of housework generally.

I don't think I could stay with someone who thought it reasonable to expect me to cook every day while he's sat about doing fuck all. I'm not spending my one short life skivvying for someone who feels entitled to be served while giving nothing in return.

We don’t have kids but we both work full time and DP does all the cooking. He likes it, I don’t. I do all the cleaning because I love it and he doesn’t 😂

It’s about finding a balance, if your OH is off work and not doing anything to help then he’s being a prick and you need to as him why he values his own time so much more than he values yours.

He sounds delightful

Shouts at you, doesn’t care that you’re run ragged, demanding, lazy.

How hard is he trying to find a new job?

This isn’t about cooking is it. He’s a bullying arsehole and you’d find life an awful lot easier and more pleasant without him sucking the joy out of everything and creating work for you.