Would you ever speak again?

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Quick background I used to live with a family many years ago, we've kept in touch and they're like my other family (just mum & daughter now). They live at the other end of the country

The mother let's call her Jane, has history. When I lived with her she slept with my best friends boyfriend, she got pregnant and passed the child off as her husbands
This came out only a few months ago and that child is now estranged

This weekend she met my boyfriend, at the end of the night she licked his chest with an ice cube in her mouth. I had a bit of a go at her and said it was weird and inappropriate, left it there. 20 mins later I can see her just flicking his nipple, he's ignoring it
And I lost my shit!

I am happy to never speak to her again and just maintain contact with the daughter (who was also horrified) would you ?

The truth is, it sounds as if she did something daft, but it wasn't that bad in the great scheme of life.
She was flirting and you were all drunk.
BUT your boyfriend ought to have told her to stop.
I'm sorry but you haven't given enough information really.

A couple of posters have asked your age and hers- you sound young- and how long you've been dating this bloke. You've not answered.

I'm not sure how you can equate the awful thing she did years ago- sleeping with someone's partner and having his child- with coming on to your BF with an ice cube when you were all drunk. Big difference!

You should both have spoken to her at the time if you felt it was out of order.

From what you have described she doesn't sound like a very nice person to have as a friend, but on the other hand you say she brought you up as a kind of substitute parent. Are you happy to end that now and never have more contact? Only you can answer that.

I'm not sure how you can equate the awful thing she did years ago- sleeping with someone's partner and having his child- with coming on to your BF with an ice cube when you were all drunk. Big difference!

@JinglingHellsBells The one is a potential harbinger of getting off with him though. If she's prepared to do this stuff in front of OP, imagine what she might do behind her back. Probably the same as she did to OP's mate.

It shows she hasn't changed/ still has the same tendencies of trying to get off/getting off with someone else's OH.

@SoulofanAggron She's clearly a cougar; he's 20 years younger! Yes I agree BUT they were all drunk AND if she did come on to him again, it takes two to tango. He can say no. She's not the sort I'd like for a friend but then she did bring up the OP (how old was she then?) so it's bit of an usual set up anyway.

Don’t see her again. She’s gross and inappropriate.

I'm not seeing her again

I went out with a totally impartial friend tonight who was shocked!

I'm done, I'm too old to have toxic people in my life, if you're not bringing anything to the table then that's it

Glad your friend talked sense, seems a very good idea to cut ties with this woman.