Should I end my marriage?

[Ceecee29]

Really need some advice. Been married to my husband for 5 years, together for 9 since I was 22. We have one dc who is 3 years old who we both adore. My husband is a good man & a great dad. I just can't shake the feeling that I don't love him anymore. I care about him & our shared history, however things have gradually changed over the years & we are now more like housemates. I can't bear it when he touches me & we haven't been intimate for a long time. Everything he says irritates me, we constantly argue & I am just not happy any more. This situation is not making me a nice person, I am cruel to him at times. I wish I could change my feelings. I haven't ended things yet because of our dc, lack of money (I work 3 days a week but have no idea how I could afford it all on my own), & because my husband has not actually done anything wrong! I can't help but feel however that I am 30 and don't want to spend the rest of my life feeling this way 😔 the thought of my dc leaving home when older and being stuck with my husband forever fills me with dread. We cannot afford counselling. I have no family nearby to help me out and no close friends nearby either. I can't drive, currently doing lessons but if we split those would have to stop. I feel so alone. Any advice would be much appreciated x

I think the main person you need to speak to is your partner. I have been on the receiving end of someone going through that kind of feeling and personally I wish they'd just spoken to me. A horrible conversation to have of course, never easy never fun. But one that after 9 years together you both deserve that respect from eachother to sit down like adults and speak about it all. It could just be that you need to give it a couple of weeks trial run and work cause maybe just got too comfortable? Maybe you both need to get things off your chest or maybe it just isn't meant to be. But the best way to handle it would be to communicate between you and work through it together and it may mean you won't stay together but that's something that'll be easier for both parties to handle if you're both in the know.

You are going to have to say something. If you think that you are being cruel can you think what it might be doing to him? An explanation is required. It might be that you end up apart but wouldn't it be so much better to do it amicably seeing that you both adore your son?