Is my mother narcissistic?Or is something else wrong with her behavior.

[whatisforteamum]

All through my life DM has been hard work.My dsis used to compare notes on her bizarre behaviour and we all developed anxiety and depression over the years and self esteem issues.My dsis had no contact with her for months\years and dm stopped coming to my house about a decade ago.
She lives near me so all through df dying and since the more recent lockdown I have called her and picked up shopping daily as she stopped ordering online.
She was advised to shield which she didn't like so called GPS to get removed from the list!!
The GP said it was for her own good and I doubt she mentioned it being because she is morbidly obese and has had cancer twice.
The DM started ranting about the furlough scheme about how it was taxpayers money ( she never really worked herself) and I had to explain that I couldn't work in the.restaurant as they were ordered to close.Now she is refusing to pay her tv licence until they actually contact her and is prepared to go to prison if needs be.😢
Now I'm having a CV test as I lost my sense of taste and smell for a few days and she is questioning if I have sinus trouble! and did I know the tests cost 150 pounds.
I feel like there is something wrong with her.I can't do right for doing wrong and she wonders why relatives didn't cut her grass like my dh has done.She is so picky and critical.
Her local bank has temporarily shut so when she rings them later she is telling them her son is a chartered accountant CRINGE.
Really she expects the world to revolve around her.
Is this a mental health issue or what.I really do not know anyone else like her.

I don't know if it's narcissistic or something else, but the question is whether or not you can cope with it. Can you maintain a relationship with her while she is like this?

Do you do it out of obligation? Do you like her? Can you look past the weirdness and still want to see her/help her.

Sounds difficult. Look after yourself.

She sounds like a horrible person. Beyond that I have no idea if she actually has some sort of MH issue or personality disorder. I think the bigger issue is whether it's worth having her in your life? It doesn't sound like she's in anyway loving or supportive and is most likely a big drain on your energy and MH.

She can be a drain BUT she is in her 70s and my DM.I do feel responsible as the eldest of 4.The others have distanced themselves for their own sanity.Dsis has serious MH issues and my adoptive DBro said he couldn't drive to help her as he had had a drink expecting her to want something when she called.
She comes across as a polite middle class woman but she has a nasty side.When my dcs were sma l she barely helped out claiming my dh and I had made our bed and we should lie in it even though She voted on my db s kids and fostered over 20 strangers children.