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Terrified that nobody will want me after this and it is all too late

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Whatsj · 17/08/2020 09:53

I’m spending nearly every night having nightmares and sometimes being sick. I’ve got anti depressants and I’m on a therapy course. It’s keeping me from doing anything silly but I am terrified every day that the life I wanted is over.

I was engaged, we were supposed to get married last October. He ended things and literally left the same day and I’ve not seen him since. I hear he’s now with someone new and they’ve even bought a house together. I’m 36 and learned recently that one side ovulating. I moved home to my family and got a small house that competed a few weeks ago. I used to live outside London so it is a huge change for me and I do like it (mine and ex fiancée were going to move out to the country when married), there’s not so many people around compared with the outskirts of London obviously.

I spent so many years dating before I met my ex. Literally 6 years. It wasn’t enjoyable I never liked dating that much.

I’m now back at square one and feel like I have no future in any way like the one I had hoped for. I sleep an hour or so a night and cry most days. My friends are all very settled down and I see them often but they have their own busy lives. I’m the one on the outside. I couldn’t face a family alone and it’s the whole partner dynamic that also matters to me. I don’t know how to get through this? I don’t find happiness in anything anymore.

OP posts:
FTstepmum · 17/08/2020 10:04

It's so hard to see the bigger picture when you're in the mire. My heart goes out to you.

To encourage you, I had a truly, truly awful decade in terms of relationship, but married a wonderful man last year when I was 41 and he was 49.

Once you get through this initial and inevitable sadness (which you will), I absolutely guarantee you will start to feel gradually more hopeful about life.

You're never too late. Be gentle with yourself now as you yield to your current pain. It will go.

Xxx

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