Help, fiancé upset but I'm not sure I've done anything wrong

[MyGhastIsFlabbered]

Last night my fiancé said that last year (when we met) was the best year of his life. He then asked me which was mine. 15 years ago (pre-kids) I took 6 months off and went travelling around NZ-it was a lifelong dream of mine to go there. So I said that 2005 was my best year.

Now he's really upset and won't talk to me. I've explained why I said 2005 but he's still really upset and keeps going on about how I must want to still be with the boyfriend I had at that time (I don't).

Should I just have lied and said 2019?

His correct response would have been to say, "Well we'll have to make sure something similar happens in our future, maybe when we retire"

Is he 11?!

Goady fucker. Bin him.

He's testing you, to see how easily he can control you.
You failed the first part of the test by not immediately following his lead and saying the same as he did.
But you passed the second part of his test by explaining your self and excusing your answer.

Now he has moved on to the next stage of The Game, where he sulks until you do some serious grovelling, and probably make concessions about something else, in an effort placate him.
At that point he has won The Game; he has made you feel horrible for just being yourself.

Next time, he thinks that you will be much easier to manipulate, because you will remember how horrible you felt, and give him the answer that he wants.

RUN! The hills are that way > > > > > > > > >

What Ada said, brava for that. I agree this was a test, he's a nasty piece of work. Bin him, get some space and good luck.