Just reading a thread on here where a husband is treating his wife with no respect. Some very supportive posters helping the OP through it.
Feeling very ashamed as I'm quite horrible to my husband sometimes, more so in the last few weeks as things have been pretty stressful (job loss, moving, unplanned pregnancy which I still don't know if I can continue with) - not that this is any excuse.
He absolutely hates confrontation whereas I am more of a live wire and have an uncontrollable 'need' to set things straight. We had couples counselling before we had our first child, a little over two years ago, which did seem to help for a bit but now - going through the fog of the first couple of years of raising a child - it seems to have fallen by the wayside. It's like I have little respect for him but I do want us to last and I don't know how to sort things out. Due to my job (I'm working part time now) I'm going to be more financially dependent on him for a while although we have so far put equally into the marriage in this respect... if this is relevant.
I'm not really looking forward to a bashing on here (I'm pretty good at doing that to myself) but need a bit of advice as to how to get the balance right. In a way I suppose he enables it as he never fights back. Are we doomed? Does he need someone much sweeter and do I need someone who will stand up to me? Or is it 100% my issue? I should know better as I work in an industry where we help people in distress, plus I'm no spring chicken.
I've stopped taking ADs (was on after breastfeeding as hadn't ever addressed the emotional and mental fallout from a bereavement filled year, and didn't want to be on them though pregnancy and bf) due to finding out I'm pregnant again, they were helping but I won't take while carrying. Also not sure we will see this pregnancy through.
Sorry for the long post, just needed to get it all out.