Breaking up on UC

[Tense11]

I think me and my partner are done.
He is a complete man child, and yet he seems to think every problem we have is because of me. I am on mat leave at the moment with our 6 month old.

We are on UC because he lost his job. I have no local family and I have never lived on my own. I really dont know what happens when you break up on Universal Credit. We're renting and both on the tenancy. He has family on the same street.

I'd just like a handhold and some advice on the practical side of breaking up with someone. Our lives seem so entangled it seems impossible to separate and I worry I'll have to go back to where my family is, when I'd rather stay here so my son can be near his dad and his in laws.

Its shit but I dont think he will ever be different. Sorry for the venting.

There is a group on Facebook. The admin on there are very knowledgeable. It's called universal credit essentials

In a similar situation (joint tenancy, uc, small baby, unemployed partner, miles away from family) so joining for a handhold. Bloody hard isn't it! Do you think your partner would leave if you asked him? Mine will not. I think it's fairly easy to separate your claims--you could put a message in your journal to ask your advisor about it?
Are you under contract in your tennancy or on a rolling monthly?

Thank you.
I doubt my partner would leave. His mother may be able to convince him, she's coming round at 12 to talk to us both. So I just have to deal with us ignoring each other until then.
Housing around here is not cheap.
Until I know where we're going to live I'm afraid of saying anything to UC because I know they like to stop the money at a moments notice.

I hate being on benefits, I've always hated it. I have a minimum wage job and he had a better one and it balanced out, with me doing the housework and him earning more money. And then he lost his job and now spends 10 hours a day at least on his computer. It just makes me so sad its come to this.

How did it go with his mum @Tense11
Is there possiblity of him staying with her for a bit?

Don't feel bad about being on benefits - they exist for a reason and it's fine to rely on them to support yourself and your DC through this. Get in touch with your advisor and enquire about claiming as a single parent.

I'm on benefits at the moment. I chose to end my relationship with my youngest child's dad when he was a few days old knowing I would have to rely on benefits for a bit, but rather that than stay in a shitty relationship. I live alone with my 3 DC in an area where I know no one and have no family around to help. I moved here in February with the aim of rebuilding my life (it's a council house) but then lockdown happened so I still don't really know anyone, but I'm planning to get to baby groups and things when I can and return to work when my youngest is a bit older. It's all a bit overwhelming at first but just take it one step at a time. It's easier being a single parent than it is to put up with a man-child!

I went through this a few months ago. I changed my status to single claim instead of joint, they asked where we're both living and that was that. I had to change my job status too as I went from employed to unemployed as couldn't afford childcare and he'd given up his job. I was already receiving help with housing so that just went up to full and they sorted out my council tax for me. They haven't asked for proof of my living arrangements, not sure for him but I don't think he was asked either.
I was so scared to leave him because of finances but it was so easy to sort out really and I wish I'd got out sooner.
When I fill out the council housing form there's options for why I need a house such as too expensive and I think there's one that says something about a breakdown of a relationship so if you need to move but want to stay in the area that can help