What do you personally do with your partner to feel closer/more vulnerable with them?

[driventodistractionk]

Is it something you do together?

Nothing. Why would anyone want to be vulnerable?

To feel closer in the 'friendship' aspect - find hobbies you like doing together, work on 'projects' together, could be planning a whole lifestyle or just cooking a meal from a recipe book or critiquing a film together.

To feel closer in the 'vulnerable' sense - things that you wouldn't do with anyone else. Ie sex, lie around or sleep naked together, touch or kiss places you wouldn't with others no matter how close (mostly sexual, but even non sexual places count).

I also don't understand the vulnerable bit.

Why on earth would you want to be more vulnerable?

Vulnerability isn't a good thing.

Where's this coming from? Is it you wanting more emotional connection with your partner - or is it a partner telling you he wants you to be vulnerable with him?

Shag him, basically

@category12

More emotional connection with a partner.

@chitlin What's so inherently bad about vulnerability?

I've never once had the thought "now how can I make myself more vulnerable today?". Is it a thing? what does it mean? why are you thinking along these lines?

Hmmm never decided to become vulnerable but here's a few ideas.

Taking on an expensive loan pre covid and then losing your job during covid. Makes us both financially vulnerable, yay!

Also. Go ape. Walking along tight ropes makes you feel quite vulnerable.

Or you could go out without face masks and lick door handles.

Hth.

Perhaps start with using more words generally, I mean, here you're being very brief and expecting us to fill in the gaps, instead of explaining what you feel is lacking and your relationship situation. If you're like it in person, then that's your issue.

@driventodistractionk I might be putting words in your mouth but by vulnerable do you mean opening up to your partner emotionally, talking about feelings/wants and needs? I think some people have taken the word vulnerable as being made to be unsafe rather than the way it is used in some USA.

I get to what you mean re:vulnerability OP and as a pp said, it's not about vulnerability being unsafe, it's more about allowing yourself to be emotionally vulnerable with a partner, allowing yourself to be your true self with a partner and let your guard down without fear of judgement etc. Brené Browns TED talk on the power of vulnerability is an interesting watch and I've personally found it quite eye opening