Heartbreak has hit months after

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Feel dreadful. Asked exh for a divorce last September and it was finalised last month. We have 2 dc together. I had to ask for a divorce as it had got toxic. I didn't feel sad when I told him I wanted a divorce, when the absolute came through etc. Iv just kept going. He has to come stay at my house when he comes to see the kids because he works in another part of the country and doesn't have a base where me and the dc live.
This weekend I found out he's been seeing someone for several months and iv crumbled. Its like it's all just hit me that it's over (ridiculous I know) and I'm heartbroken.
I don't know why I hadn't started to process any of this before now.

Has anyone been through this? When will it stop hurting?

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Aww sorry OP, sending hugs.

Sounds like delayed grief. It’s natural, no matter how much the divorce needed to happen - of course it will take its toll emotionally. If you’ve bottled everything up a good cry might do you good.

Are you amicable and was it a clean break?

Probably hurts knowing he could move on in what seems so soon and easily. It will pass, you will get past this and you will feel better.

If you don’t mind me saying it might not be healthy for him to stay with you to see the children long term, particularly if you start a new relationship. Will be hard for you to move on at the moment if he stays every week or whatever. Does he have family or friends near to you? Could he perhaps rent a room in a shared house?