Is this a stupid idea just because I feel my life here is getting boring or would you stick it out?

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I’ve lived in a lovely outskirts of Birmingham (yes they do exist ) for five years. I have enjoyed it here and built a life for myself but it was a starter home and I suppose in my mind I thought i will meet someone and then we will move on with life together, maybe somewhere different...I didn’t mind where but somewhere new. Maybe somewhere bigger etc.

Anyway it’s been an awful two years and obviously this year has come with other dramas and I’m now sat in the house I once loved, feeling stagnant and not really enjoying it like I once did. I feel irritated I still don’t have a utility (haha yes I feel old) so that I could have a dog with more ease for instance. I want a bigger garden. Most of all I want a change and something new, I’m bored. But maybe this is because I am in now in the house all day everyday working alone? Or is it because I never thought I would be here this long anyway?

I don’t know the reasons all I know is that I’m fed up. The place is lovely and feels a little bit like home but it is a bit of a commuter place really, it isn’t somewhere I wanted to be always.

I imagine a place in the countryside with a longer commute to work (if and when we end up going back in!). And nearer frankly, nearer old friends and what I know.

I feel worried about it though as I would be taking myself out of a busy place to somewhere a bit more remote, adding to my commute, getting a bigger mortgage alone..my budget is 350 so not huge.

I feel a bit lost. Should I stay put? Not rock the boat? Any advice welcome. I’m 36 if that is relevant...I don’t want to move again alone but also feel a bit silly staying living a life I’m bored of in case the right man comes along.

*nearer family and friends that should say!

Go! Go go go!

You have nothing tying you to your current place. The advantage of being single is you make choices based on you alone.

I’d move in your situation, butt remember lockdown has made a lot of people question their lifestyle, it may not be the answer. If you don’t like it you can always come back.

sayit I do feel I want to but it feels so scary!

Everyone else seems to make that sort of move with their partner. I feel like I should stay put as I’m still single. But I’m sooo bored of this lifestyle now and this street and all the things I loved being so close like the shops and the restaurants...im over it these days!

illstart yes that was my worry though I did feel like this a bit before this year.

I look at the house and think god I don’t want to spend any more money on it! I’m bored but scared to change anything

Being bored and growing out of a house are perfectly good reasons to leave an area....

Get on Rightmove

The thing is, you could wait to do those things with a partner and then either not meet anyone, or meet someone who doesn't want to move, or wants to move somewhere else.

If meeting someone is important to you then you'll want to consider how easily you could meet someone in your new location. But on balance far better to build the life you want than to second guess someone you haven't met and might not ever?
If not now, then when?

I want a partner and would move wherever within reason if I met the right person. But I’ve been dating so long and had such a shit time the last couple of years...I’ve needed up stopping enjoying the house and where I am. I don’t like here like it did, it feels like waiting.

Just here waiting. And it’s boring.

*ended up stopping

Go! You’re free as a bird to go where you want and do what you want. YOLO, as my kids would say.

I am but wish I wasn’t! I would love to be settled with a DP and doing it all together. Alternative is staying out at that feels rubbish.

I'm in a similar situation OP. Live in a lovely area, home is perfect for DD and I but I've been here 20 years and am just so over it. Friends have started moving away now and I feel left behind and like I need to push my life forward.

I haven't made any decisions but what I am doing is decluttering and looking at my home with a more critical eye as to what needs to be done before it's put on the market so at least I am taking action of a sort.

The main thing holding me back is my daughter's schooling so if you're on your own you're in a strong position to just go out and grab what you want.

Ahh it’s difficult isn’t it!

I’m just fed up of where I am but is it giving up because things feel stale? Should I try harder to make it work here rather than running away with the idea it would be a nice change elsewhere?!

Is there somewhere you've always wanted to live or something you want to do? Could you focus on that and see if a plan emerges?

Haven't you done this thread about 3 times now?

oham not especially, I would really just be moving for a change. I’m so fed up of the same place and journey and house. It’s all become the same old.