If separated, when did you realise you didn’t love your husband anymore?

[Holymoly653]

I have been with my husband nearly 10 years and we have 2 kids, 6 & 3.

We have been through a lot, he has had emotional affairs which I’ve tried my hardest to get past but it’s not working.

As cliche as it sounds I do feel as though I love him but I’m not in love with him.

I’m not interested in messaging him when he’s at work (He works away for long periods of time)
I don’t look forward to him coming home
I hate the fact he’s drunk 1-2 times a week
The list could go on for days

I just sit and look at him on FaceTime sometimes and think, I don’t know if I even feel anything towards you?

He used to fall asleep on the sofa in front of the TV, like every night. At first I would wake him when I was going up to bed, so we could go up together. Eventually I started not waking him and finally I found myself actually tip-toeing and actively trying not to wake him so that I didn’t have to go to bed with him and he’d stay on the sofa most of the night. There was a lot of other stuff going on, but the moment I realised I was tip-toeing past rather than waking him I felt so sad and realised it just wasn’t right anymore.

@LittleRa that is sad 😔. I’m abit like that, I hate the fact they get drinks but when he does it I enjoy going to bed on my own and relaxing for abit before I go to sleep.

One other reason I believe i don’t love him anymore is because he went away for business a couple of weeks ago and stayed the night in a hotel and I actually contacted a private investigator to find out prices etc, but never went ahead. I have no trust left in him anymore.

Your relationship sounds completely over so why aren't you ready to pull the plug?

@RandomMess
Just lots of complicated things at the moment, ill family members, the 2 children, money, etc