Now what do I do?

[Hairychin123]

My husband and I have decided to separate today. I have 3dc aged 10 and under. Until 5 months ago I was a SAHM but now have a part time job. I have no idea what to do regarding house or anything else. Can anyone advise what my first steps should be?

I think he should leave you in the house with the three children. You will need a solicitor and he needs to see the children every other weekend and probably one night a week. If he goes for 50/50 custody he won't have to pay maintenance.

In theory all assets including pensions should be split 50/50 although if the need of the main parent is more then they will get more working on the theory that the other one has more opportunity to make it up, through not being at home with the children.

It might be you have to sell the house though.

@Vodkacranberryplease

I think he should leave you in the house with the three children. You will need a solicitor and he needs to see the children every other weekend and probably one night a week. If he goes for 50/50 custody he won't have to pay maintenance.

In theory all assets including pensions should be split 50/50 although if the need of the main parent is more then they will get more working on the theory that the other one has more opportunity to make it up, through not being at home with the children.

It might be you have to sell the house though.

Depends on the situation. My friend got the house and maintance for her and the children.

Get a solicitor. Stay in the house if you can.

Hi,
We have also decided to separate recently and we’re starting with mediation to agree everything, we don’t want to spend a lot on legal fees - its amicable so makes it easier. I did use free legal service through work - a 10 minute call - to see what my options are in terms of the house & my responsibilities around debt etc also. Best of luck to you.

Thanks all for your comments, solicitor first tomorrow thing I think. Best of luck to you all too.