Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

Going to sound crazy but anyone had this experience with a dream? I’m usually cynical about this stuff but this was so strange...

48 replies

User46436 · 14/08/2020 22:30

I’m questioning myself even typing this! As I don’t really believe in anything like it...but the other night I had THE most vivid dream that I was tucking in this child into bed, the colour of his hair, the chat we had on his bed, I read him a book, turned the light off and then went back up to check on him a while later. It was all so vivid and I felt like I knew him and I was in this new place but I knew it well... the stairs, the carpet, it was like it was a home I hadn’t felt before. When I woke up I remembered it and felt happy all morning in this really really strange way that I can’t explain. Like a weird content feeling and like a haze of this feeling that I can’t describe either. It was the most calm I have felt in months and months.

Context...I’m single and a while back I was very deeply unhappy I didn’t have a partner or a child, following a devastating break up and miscarriage (both happening within three months), I was distraught... but that wasn’t on my mind of late or that night or anything.

It probably sounds silly but has anyone experienced this before?! I’m sure it sounds silly to most, I would have scoffed at it before it happened too! Haha.

OP posts:
Original poster
User46436 · 14/08/2020 22:31

I realise that post reads ‘has anyone had a vivid dream’ Grin

That’s not really what I mean. Has anyone had a dream that’s really rocked their life a bit?!

OP posts:
ladywintergarden · 14/08/2020 22:32

I love a good dream, I do believe that there are more to dreams. It sounds wonderful though.

Patienceisvirtuous · 14/08/2020 22:33

I hope your dream comes true x

Original poster
User46436 · 14/08/2020 22:33

lady I’ve never believed in any of that stuff but after this...I just can’t get it out of my head/shake the feeling after it.

OP posts:
Annabellerina · 14/08/2020 23:20

Depends what you think of dreams, I believe they can be signs or predictions and that dreams can link us to the spirit world. Perhaps the spirit of your baby came to visit? (So sorry you had a miscarriage Flowers) I lost a brother who I have seen, talked to, cuddled and played with in my dreams.

TimeIhadaNameChange · 14/08/2020 23:27

I had a similarly vivid but mundane dream when I was a teenager. My family were bakers in a small village in Germany. I was 'there' two nights in a row and I can still picture the road and the building 20+ years on.

liverpool1981 · 14/08/2020 23:28

I have been having really crazy dreams myself and I do believe there is a message in each of them. Back in 2008 I lived in a beautiful house and never in a million years could see myself in any other house. I used to dream of a particular house in my village as a new build with a balcony. Now is 2020 I live in that house sans the balcony and it's not new build. Some dreams really do come true 😘

TimeIhadaNameChange · 14/08/2020 23:28

It was the only time I've felt a dream could be real, and I was seeing someone else's life.

Totickleamockingbird · 14/08/2020 23:30

There is definitely more to dreams than we understand currently. What it is, I don’t know. I only know that there may be more to your dream too. Flowers

LiBan · 14/08/2020 23:32

Yes i have had really memorable dreams that were giving me signifant messages.

sunsalutations · 14/08/2020 23:34

One of the most intensive, vivid dreams I've had, when I was a teenager, is of me chasing an ostrich round a loch in Scotland. It was completely meaningless. The mind can play big tricks on you, but I think it's hormones, possibly associated with your miscarriage, definitely with teenage hormones for me.

LiBan · 14/08/2020 23:36

I think you activated the Mother when you got pregnant. Your subconcious wanted to be maternal. Xx
I think your subconscious knows it will happen for you in the future as the dream brought you comfort not anxiety

Takethebullbth · 15/08/2020 02:26

Op when I was 10 yrs old I woke knowing I had just dreamt about my future children. A blonde haired girl & an auburn haired boy. (Interestingly, never registered the 10 yr age gap between them ). People would often comment how my daughter looked nothing like me & I would agree & say “my son is going to be more like me”. Cue strange looks. Obviously you can’t be sure whether or not a dream is prophetic until it comes to pass but I’ve had about 6 over the years & each time there was a feeling of just KNOWING it wasn’t a run of the mill dream. I have dreamt of my Daughters future children & given she thinks she doesn’t want any (she’s now 28), she’s in for a rude shock 😂😂 I’m not saying a word 🤣 So while you can’t be sure, yes it does happen.

Emmelina · 15/08/2020 03:56

I remember a similar dream, in it we were at some event at my sister’s workplace, she came out to see us and had a toddler girl on her hip with gorgeous ringlets and chubby cheeks. The dream stuck with me.
Sis was married at time of dream, no kids, but a few years later divorced and married again. She then had a daughter... ringlets... chubby cheeks...

Catiopea · 15/08/2020 04:39

Literally just woke up from one! Well, pretty sure the actual content won’t come true or anything but the feeling will.

And like yours its one of happiness. Having had horrendous warning dreams before its lovely to wake up from a nice dream with a very positive & happy feeling - maybe a sign of healing taking place.

💐for your loss OP and I hope the dream is a sign of healing for you too.

OldChinaJug · 15/08/2020 04:46

I had a very similar experience around 25 years ago, OP. In similar circumstances.

The child in the dream had dark auburn hair and green eyes and was about 5 years old. I could see details of his face. I also woke with an overwhelming sense of can't and peace.

I have two children now and nothing about my dream materialised.

NotaCoolMum · 15/08/2020 04:48

Yep and they’re AMAZING!! They are called Lucid Dreams 💐

Marahute · 15/08/2020 08:02

Yep and they’re AMAZING!! They are called Lucid Dreams

Lucid dreaming is the awareness that you are actually dreaming and the ability to control the dream. Neither of which the OP mentioned.

OP I have had dreams that were very vivid and that stayed with me for years afterwards. I woke up crying from a dream as a child, and I can still remember it and the emotional impact.

waitingforachange · 15/08/2020 08:36

I dream all the time and had a similar dream when I was a teen. I can't remember the baby's face in detail other than it was so beautiful but the feeling was the same as when I gave birth to my DD.

I've had quite a few premonition dreams ver the years. I actually spent some time with a psychoanalyst looking at my dreams for a while to understand them more as I have a recurring one and it was fascinating!

SoulofanAggron · 15/08/2020 09:16

My then OH started seeing pregnant women (real ones, not visions or anything) all the time, before I knew I was pregnant- we weren't even consciously trying, we'd forgotten about the possibility after 5 years of my not getting pregnant, due to us both maybe not having ideal fertility.

I'm a skeptic, but I still think sometimes weird things happen. I don't get them happen much at all really. Some people get these things happen to them more than others.

Eileithyiaa · 15/08/2020 09:28

My beloved grandad died in 2007. He was my hero and I was devastated. Me, DM and Dsis moved in with Nan to help us all by being together.

In between his death and the funeral, I had the most vivid dream of my life. I was stood in the bathroom at my Nans, crying over grandad and I looked up and could see him looking through the crack in the door.

He came in and hugged me. I was ecstatic because I knew it shouldn't have been possible. He told me everything was going to be ok, he was going to miss me and will always love me. We talked about some other things but the general feeling of the experience was goodbye (he died very suddenly and it was unexpected).

What made it so strange, was I could still smell him when I woke up in bed. I felt the strangest calm and as cliche as it sounds - acceptance.

Then, 5 mins later, I heard my DM scream from her bed, and my Dsis (4 at the time), said "it's ok mummy, it's just grandad trying to make you jump".

So on the whole, I truly believe my grandad visited in a dream to give me one last hug and goodbye. I can still remember it like it was yesterday.

lovellost · 15/08/2020 09:44

One night , I had a dream where I was stood somewhere and my partner at the time walked past me with another woman. As he was walking past, I was calling his name and he was ignoring me . Exactly a week later he left me for someone else . I have had many dreams that have come to past so I am always inclined to believe in them .

I hope your dream comes true.
My friend used to say " the future you cannot picture, you cannot feature "

JudyGemstone · 15/08/2020 09:57

@NotaCoolMum

Yep and they’re AMAZING!! They are called Lucid Dreams 💐
They're not called lucid dreams, that's something different
NotaCoolMum · 15/08/2020 10:25

Well whatever they are- they’re awesome! @JudyGemstone 😃

Doyoumind · 15/08/2020 10:31

I have lots of very vivid dreams. I think dreams are based on what is going on in your head - your hopes and your worries - and not an insight into the future. I have those dreams where you wake up so happy and the feeling stays with you. They help you work through things in your subconscious. They aren't predictions.

Swipe left for the next trending thread