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Should a relationship have secrets ?

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user2156 · 13/08/2020 13:03

DH and I have been together 30 years married 26 have had our ups and downs like most. I thought we were happy. Today I discover he has been keeping something from me says he is allowed secrets also long as it doesn’t affect us. I don’t agree with is.
Looking for anyone’s else thoughts on this thanks

OP posts:
FinallyHere · 13/08/2020 17:30

Usually, if I notice there is something I don't want DH to know, there is a reason, mostly that he will think less of me.

This is a good hint that I should either tell me or not do whatever it was.

Birthday surprises entirely different thing.

Somethingkindaoooo · 13/08/2020 18:05

OP
Only you get to decide your boundaries.

Secrets have a way of turning into lies....

As for me - secrets about meeting other women are not ok.

Secrets about debt - not ok.

Secrets about past activies- prob ok. Not ok if they lied.

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