I feel so sad and unloved

[Soblueithurts]

My boyfriend has broken up with me, it’s my own fault, I made things hard for him and wasn’t supportive of him, I agreed the relationship was causing both of us pain. But I know I will never meet someone who loves me in the same way for who I am. I feel completely alone in the world now and abandoned, I am unloveable. I have very few friends/family. I just feel like I’d be better off dead honestly, is anyone out there and awake? I can’t breathe for tears

Sorry you're going through this, your pain is palpable. Just remember that this feeling is normal after a break up and it will pass. If this man wasn't the perfect partner for you (and it sounds like he wasn't), see this as the beginning of your next adventure, rather than the end of something. You now have the opportunity to meet someone who you're more compatible with. Be kind to yourself and get ready to dust yourself down and push forward

I am sorry you are feeling so sad.......

I have been where you now. It is tough.

Hold tight and it will pass, as hard as it seems now. You can be strong, you have value and worth, you are lovable and you will be loved again.

To be fair, there are lots of people feeling the way you do right now. I have lapses in mood and feel a bit lost in this world. Life can be very difficult and alienating. Time is a healer and you cannot fix a relationship that is not working. There is nothing wrong with feeling sad and unloved, but you can make an effort to fill the void in your life. I don't mean with another man, but through pursuing interests and filling your time. This is how I manage...I overfill my time with other people and their needs. On the rare moments when I don't have that obligation, I feel terrible and empty. The world seems set up for couples, families and friendship groups...leaving the outsiders 'outside'. You just need to be kind to yourself and pamper. That will make you a stronger person to deal with your emotions and how you interact with others. Good luck!

Oh don't cry anymore. We've all had heartbreak, listen to the songs! It will get better, you will feel better and you will find someone who loves you and you them.
Wipe your eyes and think of the good things in your life. Think about tomorrow, things always seem worse at night.

Best thing to do right now is rest and try and get some sleep tonight, no man is worth feeling suicidal over, I know it feels like the end of the world now but that's how it feels when we have heart break but love will come round again, keep being strong, talk on here, to a colleague, friend etc, you are not alone.

You poor thing @Soblueithurts! Most of us have been there. Please don't contact him. Try not to blame yourself or put him on a pedestal - you are worthwhile and deserving of love, beautiful and special people go through breakups too. He just isn't the right one for you. I am sorry you have had a tough time so far but who knows what wonderful things are in store for you?! Please try and get some rest, things do get better with time I promise.

Thank you for replying. We live together still so it’s really hard to even begin to think about healing. I know he loves me still and I him but our relationship just doesn’t seem to work and we have tried so many times. I have a sense that my future is going to be so bleak - I had a whole future, a man, house, pets. Now nothing.

It may feel like that now, but that feeling is just your emotions giving you brain fog. People meet and fall in love at all different stages in their lives. Your future is only bleak if you make it so. This is your fresh start and eventually as that empty feeling subsides, you'll realise that life is exactly what you make it. Make it better! Good luck 🍀