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would this move be a bad idea?

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harryfbd · 10/08/2020 12:19

I’m 35, single, heartbroken recently and fed up with living on the edge of a city to commute to a job where I only need to go in twice a week.

I have friends here and can date day after day if I want. It’s full of people my age. But I suddenly want to go back to where I grew up...in a small village, middle of nowhere with around an hour or so commute to local cities. I have friends there too and my family. The village is reasonably large but either older population and full of families. I’ve even logged into online dating round there and there’s barely any professionals my age.

But I am so bored of this life of dating, living in a place where there isn’t much community and where there’s loads to do but I don’t feel like it is homely.

Would this be a stupid move? I’m feeling very heartbroken and sad so it could be reactive but then again I’ve been at this for the last 8 years and not met anyone..I would rather have been living in the country all this time!

OP posts:
harryfbd · 10/08/2020 19:14

Anyone any advice or experiences of this? :)

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harryfbd · 10/08/2020 20:16

Hopeful bump!

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PolloDePrimavera · 10/08/2020 20:18

It sounds like you want to do it do do it. And you could always move back later on?

PolloDePrimavera · 10/08/2020 20:18

*so do it...

LatteLover12 · 10/08/2020 20:22

I'd do it OP! Far better for you to be in a community where you have people you can rely on.

I love living rurally ❤️

harryfbd · 10/08/2020 20:30

I’m just scared I will be closing off all ideas of meeting anyone! It’s a family orientated place/older community but I am fed up of living on the cusp of a city I only visit twice a week!

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dooratheexplorer · 10/08/2020 22:27

Follow your gut feeling. You may be pleasantly surprised!

MarieGold · 11/08/2020 00:04

As you say you’re recently heartbroken, is it worth waiting a few months until things settle before making such a big decision? If you’ve felt like this for eight years then another eight weeks or so won’t make much of a difference. I am also recently heartbroken and have been considering moving away from city life for years, but I’m very reluctant to make any decisions right now. Just my thoughts Smile

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