I feel so lost

[Tiamariax]

I’m not sure where to start. I feel so lost and unmoored. I’m 29 and have just came out of an 8 year relationship, I feel heartbroken and grief stricken but accept it is probably for the best as we weren’t good for each other anymore and it was destroying my mental health. But now it feels like it has had a domino effect on all other areas of my life. I’ve moved out of our joint home and living with friends at the moment although I‘m in a city where I only ever moved to because of my ex’s work, and I don’t know many people here and really just can’t see myself staying here as a single person as it doesn’t feel like home. I do have a job and although I know I’m lucky to have one it’s not something I particularly care about keeping. I don’t know what advice I’m looking for, but I feel really low. I’m nearly 30 and I’m going to have to go into a flatshare somewhere, I have barely any family or friends, very little money and two loans which I need to pay off. I have economic anxiety due to the news reports of impending mass redundancies. It all just feels hopeless and I have constant feeling of dread. Am I too old to just pack everything in and move back to my hometown and begin again from scratch?

You’re never too old for anything and 29 is very young. You still have your whole life ahead of you. Do you have friends in your hometown? Maybe a fresh start is just what you need.

Never too old OP.
I'm 51 and about to do exactly the same thing (sorry but this is after my recent redundancy)
Go where your family and friends are and start afresh.
It's a heartbreaking time.
Put a plan together and go for it!

Thank you for replying. In the meantime how do I stop the tears from flowing?

@Tiamariax

Thank you for replying. In the meantime how do I stop the tears from flowing?

Bless you OP.

Let them flow, they need to come out and will help you heal. It's ok to cry and hurt, this is a horrible time!

When I was in a similar boat at age 31, what helped me cope was constantly writing down how I felt in a diary/journal, taking a lot of baths, watching stupid youtube videos, and exercising. I also took an OTC sleep aid every second night because I couldn't sleep but also didnt want to be a zombie.

And i talked on here!

Keep posting, someone will be here to hold your hand x

Cry when you need to OP.
It's been 8 years.
You are not just going to 'get over it' just like that.
Be kind to yourself.
Do things that make you happy.
And have a good cry and let it all out as and when you need to.
They will ease in time and get less.
But it's amazing how many tears our bodies can produce!