I got cheated on and dumped 2 months ago. It was a sort of LDR, though not completely as I have a house in his city and often worked and stayed there, and was planning to move back for good (although hadn't told him yet), which I have now done. But during lockdown, we couldn't see each other and he phoned me and told me "Sorry, but I'm seeing someone else now".
I'd known him for a long time and we had been in a relationship for 2 years and I'd known him for 15 years, during which time we had been in the same group of friends and holiday together, etc.. We had had a fling before and then got together again properly. Very happy, no arguments, great relationship.
Its the woman he cheated on me with. I've worked out who it is and a mutual friend has given me the lowdown. Basically, she is a bit of a fantasist and makes up stuff to make herself sound better (such as being really good at a certain sport when in actual fact she is a beginner, at best) (I am very good at said sport), or she lives in a messy flat because she is someone that does flats up for a living.
She invents other stuff as well. Everyone refers to as "Stinky " and she knows this and isn't too bothered. She talks about her sexual acts on her social media (which is public) and not in a funny way. She half starved her 2 animals and when the RPSCA was threatened, had them put to sleep and didn't care. Mutual friend isn't lieing because she has no grievance with her and knows her better than she knows me. I suggested to mutual friend that she was maybe exaggerating to make me feel better and she said if anything she was actually being kind about "Stinky ". She also said she wouldn't leave her alone with a man as she tried to seduce someone else's husband at a party and was thrown out the house.
Its just really upset me. I've had to go in 2 months from loving someone to no contact (he blocked me on my phone although I did nothing to warrant it) on the basis of a 3 minute phone call, in the middle of lockdown where I am hardly seeing or meeting anyone due to everything being cancelled or closed and working from home. I feel like I need some kind of counselling to help me process this, because its kind of the opposite of what I thought about him. He comes across as a very proper, sort of shy, innocent man who has really high standards. He's very clean and houseproud. Its just so upsetting.